[Urban Cragou]

I wouldn’t say gender per-se (tangible gender) means nothing whatsoever (not that those innate differences aren’t over-exaggerated) but that’s neither here nor there with regard to what I’m getting at with the crux of this thread. One thing I’d say for that though is that when you start to see someone of the opposite sex (I mean, depending on which way you swing, really) as a fully-fleshed person with an actual personality than a sex object you start to view them on their own terms (which is how everyone is entitled to be on some level) and not just within the rigid box of men and women.

There are some things that only apply to women and certain things that only apply to men (or at least predominantly) just by mere virtue of gender and stuff like that does need to be acknowledged but the way young ‘wannabe-alpha’ lads often talk about women comes from the fact that they’re often not socialised to see young women as actual people. They want to be earning 100k+ a year in fraud-money and have a pretty lady who they can eventually marry, cheat on, tell to shut up whenever they feel like it and expect to do all their laundry and cooking for them. Having a bit (or a lot) of N.S.A. fun is absolutely fine but when I’ve had to listen to other guys banging on about their increasing body count when they’ve already got a main woman/young woman on the go and had to pretend to be interested doesn’t bear thinking about. But to them “girlfriend” might mean “main side-ting on da go until I’m actually ready to get married” so in one sense I can’t even judge them too much. But what I do know fo-sho is that slag-shaming while actually being an out-and-out stud-cheat with actual strings attached (not just a high B.C. that’s accumulated over time) is not the one. I know it’s always been there but guys under the age of 30 often talk about it like it’s totally normal for the guy to cheat. Not even an ounce of shame or embarrassment. They don’t value the true meaning of relationships anymore.