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Originally Posted by Oliver_W

A bit irrel but I think this should apply no matter what the gender combination. It was no better when it was Caroline Flack and Harry Styles, and it's gross when boys abused by female teachers get called "lucky" and people "wish they had teachers like that" ...

But yeah, no matter how old-looking or "mature" the sixteen year old was, she was still a child, and anything else being considered, how could Brand actually be okay with sleeping with someone who got picked up from school?

No I agree, and generally the only real difference in the end is how long it takes for males to start feeling weird about it. (In general, and for societal reasons) girls will be upset and feel "used" as soon as the abuser inevitably breaks it off, boys will carry on feeling like they were a "top shagger" for many years, but generally once they reach 35+ they start realising they were used/abused as a naive teenager and do have very negative feelings about it.

A mate of mine had a 6 month long fling with a 48 year old woman when we were 17. He bragged about it for YEARS, but feels pretty gross about the whole thing now that he's nearing 40 himself. I think you start to look back, then look around and see how bloody young a 17 year old lad actually looks (you don't feel like that at the time), and realise that it's all a bit messed up.

She had a son just a year younger too . Messy stuff.