[Maru]

Sarah was giving good advice overall and I don't think what she said "sounds" wrong. His reaction certainly made it seem like it hit too close to home... I don't think she meant it the way Ali called him fake, like in an accusatory way. And I think all said and done, of the people who would issue blunt advice to him, she's one of the better people to do it and I like that she just says it how it is...

[FromBB8]

Originally Posted by Maru

Sarah was giving good advice overall and I don't think what she said "sounds" wrong. His reaction certainly made it seem like it hit too close to home... I don't think she meant it the way Ali called him fake, like in an accusatory way. And I think all said and done, of the people who would issue blunt advice to him, she's one of the better people to do it and I like that she just says it how it is...

I think it was the forum it was delivered in, and possibly because she said nothing along those lines to him before (going by his shocked face afterwards). The advise as possibly reasonably, but the words chosen weren't. Maybe I'm an over-sensitive person too, but if a friend said that to me it would hurt. Especially if I missed the jokey tone.

[Maru]

Originally Posted by FromBB8

I think it was the forum it was delivered in, and possibly because she said nothing along those lines to him before (going by his shocked face afterwards). The advise as possibly reasonably, but the words chosen weren't. Maybe I'm an over-sensitive person too, but if a friend said that to me it would hurt. Especially if I missed the jokey tone.

Oh it would still hurt. But I think it could help him overall if he listens to her advice... so it's coming from an OK enough place.

It's better than the other question "Who would you chuck out the backdoor if you had the chance?"

[FromBB8]

Originally Posted by Maru

Oh it would still hurt. But I think it could help him overall if he listens to her advice... so it's coming from an OK enough place.

It's better than the other question "Who would you chuck out the backdoor if you had the chance?"

He may want to listen to the advice but that's why he wants space to process it - and not have Sarah convinced him as a joke or whatever. Will have to see how it pans out tonight. The heart may have been in the right place but the words weren't.

On the backdoor question, is it any wonder the housemates break so many rules? I presume this one was BB led so it's fine to expose nomination intentions when it suits the producers. It was like one during the task a couple of weeks ago, when Khaled and Marcello were asked which two housemates they'd miss the least.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by FromBB8

He may want to listen to the advice but that's why he wants space to process it - and not have Sarah convinced him as a joke or whatever. Will have to see how it pans out tonight. The heart may have been in the right place but the words weren't.

Sarah wasn’t aware it was her that upset him though until he asked for space, which she seems to have then given him. I think she’s then assumed he’s really upset at her which in turn has upset her.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by FromBB8

I think it was the forum it was delivered in, and possibly because she said nothing along those lines to him before (going by his shocked face afterwards). The advise as possibly reasonably, but the words chosen weren't. Maybe I'm an over-sensitive person too, but if a friend said that to me it would hurt. Especially if I missed the jokey tone.

…I guess it’s just one of those things that it’s hard to entirely relate to ‘real life’ or life outside the house in terms of friendships etc and how those friendships communicate …the BB house must be a weird fish situation in that the friendships in there only exist because of the ‘game’ and the game sometimes requires tasks which have elements of things that may inject negativity …and the task not always allowing or giving to choose the most sensitive and kindest wording, you know…