[In the Drunk Tank]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…awkward maybe but I don’t think there is any dislike …I mean, all of the couples on there are there because they’re looking to deepen a bond through the experience or maybe even re-connect for some…?…the sisters…(…I think…)…are completely different/opposites almost in personality and in how they’ve processed unfortunate things in their lives and in that processing…?…they’ve also lived in different countries/have no shared friendship groups etc…their gap if you like has widened because that’s progressed in such different life experiences for the last decade or so…so to an extent, they’re almost now like strangers and trying to connect with all of their back story together and I don’t know how much of that back story will have a more warming shared nostalgia ….this is an aspect that I love with the race…it has so many elements of relationship psychology plus it’s a great insight into long distance travel that many don’t get to experience for real…

I get that but we've seen a lot of growth in the others relationships from similar positions of not always understanding each other or having grown apart but a month into the race and the sisters still don't seem that comfortable around each other. And every time it's the same conversation of 'we used to be close but now we're not', 'you need to open up more', 'you went off to Italy' etc etc Elizabeth saying 'our relationship is very surface level' was a really strange thing to say about your sister. Letitia is also supposedly the withdrawn one who lacks confidence but comes across very outgoing and bubbly to me, much more so than Elizabeth

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by MTVN

I get that but we've seen a lot of growth in the others relationships from similar positions of not always understanding each other or having grown apart but a month into the race and the sisters still don't seem that comfortable around each other. And every time it's the same conversation of 'we used to be close but now we're not', 'you need to open up more', 'you went off to Italy' etc etc Elizabeth saying 'our relationship is very surface level' was a really strange thing to say about your sister. Letitia is also supposedly the withdrawn one who lacks confidence but comes across very outgoing and bubbly to me, much more so than Elizabeth

…(…I think, how I see it with them…)…is that their relationship/their circumstance is a bit more layered than any of the others in that they have actually physically been apart for most if not all of their adult lives and that’s quite a more unique thing…I guess the ones I’m thinking of are the brothers who are obviously much older…but they also shared a childhood and then have been part of each others lives through so many stages of their adult lives as well…so their relationship/bond couldn’t in any way feel surface because there’s been that physical close proximity of being part of each others lives…but the sisters don’t have that, have never had any bond as adults so far as we understand…all of their bonding has been as children…so I do think that I understand what she meant by ‘surface’…. because we don’t think and feel the same as dependant children as we do as independent adults….I think also on a by the by…that so much of those competitive type things that siblings go through…(…and they so, so do…)…the sisters to an extent seem to be on the catch up of having that phase now…‘I’m the middle child too/no you’re not, you’re the second child…you don’t get to be the middle child…/…no we’re both middle children…’…it just feels that they’re on a catch up to be able to feel deeper than surface and they’re both so used to being independent of each other as well as being independent adults so that’s another level they find of their ‘place within each others lives’….