[Zizu]

Originally Posted by Redway

Honestly, Kate, it would be a sight for sore eyes if he left it there and admitted that the whole forum shouldn’t feel like they have to bend over backwards for him in-case he can’t pick up a particular cue. He really doesn’t help himself but he needs to learn to account for that eventually. He’s an adult, just like the rest of us. Older than most of us at that. Literally a retired pensioner.

I don’t think anyone really wants to hound him or cause him discomfort but just by constantly pushing this issue like a dog with a bone, he’s putting himself in the firing line, and the natural consequence of that is being questioned about what exactly he’s playing at or trying to prove.

It shouldn’t have to fall to me or Niamh to teach a 60-something-year-old man about accountability or how not to hijack a conversation with his constant misperceptions. He just does it too often at this point for me to be comfortable staying quiet about it, I can’t lie. I appreciate you looking out for him (genuinely) but I honestly think he gets away with too much and expects too much assumed innocence and running around after his misperceptions because of his autism. I don’t want to shield him from the natural consequences of how often his misreadings disrupt things and cause unnecessary nuisance. I just can’t be tiptoeing around that. I feel like that just enables him.

The truth is, he hijacks discussions, puts himself directly in the firing line by obsessively clinging to his misunderstandings like a barnacle and acts like it’s everyone-else’s job to manage those misunderstandings for him. I’m pretty sick of it at this point. I just feel like if he’s old enough to draw a pension, he’s old enough to know that he’s not entitled to a lifetime-exemption from criticism or the expectation of basic group-awareness. He has set out deliberately to weaponise his diagnosis into a shield against consequence, like a naughty child, and he deliberately pushes boundaries over and over again. And he makes many xenophobic, misogynistic comments all the time. That alone erodes whatever sympathy I’d have for him. At some point he will have to sit down and have a WORD with himself.

WOW !


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