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Originally Posted by Maru

In my head, I'm watching a mod soaking it in bleach in the tub as we speak because apparently it needs a thorough sanitation...

Don’t forget the tea-tree oil and sodium-bicarb., still. God knows there was some filth in that thread. It became a case-study in projection, misplaced hostility from random strangers who think they’re important enough in your life for you to be able to just know why they’ve decided to take a dislike to you in the last 2 years else you’s a dumbo (perfect example of what I mean when I say strangers outside even your virtual bubble can assume more familiarity with you than is appropriate, based on nothing other than bad-faith assumptions and zero substance), passive aggression, random jibes from the usual culprits, vague antagonism, triangulation, parasocial entitlement, unchecked homophobia and misogyny continuing to spill in, people ganging up on each-other for no tangible reason, the lot. People lacking the awareness to know how textbook-toxic they’re coming across as.

Dr Ramani would have a field-day (if not field-year) with what that thread unfortunately became. Throughout that, you’ve just got to keep reminding yourself that most of these people aren’t fighting you. They’re fighting something in their heads that they’ve projected onto you but that’s just imagination in any case, not the reality of who the more nuanced of us on here truly are. If it was tangible, they’d keep it moving and let that dislike evolve through time rather than mis-projecting the same old points from 4 years ago onto you, because they know they’ve got no tangible or live-time leverage against you. Just gotta let ’em stew, no-matter how many times they endlessly repeat the same retorts (“junkie,” “hypocrite,” “arrogant”). It has nothing to do with people as they truly are half the time. There’s no live leverage between a lot of people who have beef on this forum, so they keep reaching backwards, and that goes for people who pick on Kate as-well. But luckily projection isn’t reality. It’s just a glitch in their imagination, circling the same-old noise from 2021 as-if it were yesterday or still relevant.

Anyway, I think most of us owe Kate an apology for our part in that. I wasn’t the worst culprit but I know I do. That’s me holding my hands up and taking accountability for my part in it, which many people on that thread won’t do.