[Redway]

Originally Posted by Zizu

By a range of people.. meaning YOU


As regards my self enforced break .. it was exactly that .. a 3 week break - as I wasn’t feeling well physically or mentally …

I could never leave permanently as I NEED this place


I saw your heartless comments encouraging me to leave the forum and daring me to stay away permanently .


Oddly enough it was your selfish, insensitive , comments towards me AFTER I left that drew me back in and made me even stronger and more determined to be myself !

I just thought why on Earth should I let a small minded , self important , insignificant little narcissist get under my skin … and resolved to never let it happen again .

So thanks for that !!

By a range of people, including Livia, including Niamh, including Barry., including … well, you said it yourself. You have more “enemies” (meaning someone who’s prepared to call your bluff of immaturity and infatuation with AI-models of women you’ll never know, whether they actually like you or not) on here than fans. It’s certainly not just me, and you know that. The list is longer than an ironed-out giant-giraffe’s neck. You create more pushback than goodwill, and that’s not persecution or bullying that you have no choice but to rise up strong against; that’s a pattern, and one that you never account for, as-if you’re allergic to that word (accountability), as-if it’s the Delta-strain of Covid.

Keep a narrative straight. Make it make sense, man.

In the meantime, you can call me whatever names you like, you can call me (a survivor of and advocate against narcissistic abuse) a narcissist if that makes you feel better and that you’re saving transparent face, but a spade will always be a spade, whether you call it a weapon or a banana. Not liking or agreeing with you (and you don’t make it difficult) doesn’t make someone an enemy and certainly not a narcissist. Over-using it as a buzz-word for someone you rub the wrong way is another shade of toxicity. So is trying to downplay and mock the validity of people’s lived cultural and ethnographic experiences just to, once-again, try and get your own back, and, again, the fact that you were willing to stoop so low tells me and confirms everything I need to know about you. You seem to assume that everyone you come across online, unless they explicitly say otherwise, is purely white British and not even perhaps 1/8 or 1/4 mixed-race (which I’ve alluded to many times). That’s what gives you the boldness to mock people’s culturally specific insights, and I don’t know what’s worse between that or actually knowing that the person you’re trying to retaliate against to “save face” is at the least a little culturally heterogenous/mixed and choosing to write their cultural integrity off to wacky vapes anyway. Either way, it doesn’t say good things about you. At-all. It’s easier for you to dismiss, objectify, play identity-minimisation, gaslight (which is a form of emotional abuse when it’s so intentional and persistent) and play victim than it is to acknowledge that the world is bigger than just your opinions, your lack of integrity and your personal experiences. That’s why as you are you’ll never grow up or take accountability for yourself.

Me, I wish you’d bugger off for good and never come back but I’m not in control of your destiny or actions. You have that choice and I can’t take that away from you, but that doesn’t mean I have to like you. That doesn’t make me a bully. It just means I don’t like you, and probably never will. But you knew that already, even-before you decided to announce that you were running away for 2 minutes and then renege.

“As regards my self enforced break .. it was exactly that .. a 3 week break” - you literally said you were leaving this site permanently (which would’ve been a real treat), and those words are there in print for all to see. You’re not even trying to be opaque with your bluff or keep your record straight. That’s an embodiment of just-how tangible a single word you utter on here is (not very). Man I can’t stand you. And you don’t deserve my sensitivity or compassion. Not one bit. So don’t ever expect otherwise for as long as you continue to be the way you are, with not a shred of accountability or cultural sensitivity (since you want to talk sensitivity) in your bones. I’ve got your number, sunshine. And I’ve tried to tolerate you but even your very posting-style is irritating. That’s without all the rubbish content that you remain oblivious of the toxicity in them. We don’t even have to take it that far, honey, for red flags to show up, even to someone who’s colourblind. You’s that transparent, but yet so opaque in terms of self-awareness and accountability. And I can’t stand it, or stand for you and your continued, undisciplined presence on this forum. Ugh.

What’s selfish about not liking you? Why shouldn’t I hate you? How are you being defamed when you don’t exactly have a glistering reputation on here to begin with? There are more people on here who can’t stand you than who do like you. I can tell you that for nothing. You only get back as good as you give. None of it’s undeserved.