[_Seth]

It's to block out the mental pain for a while.

Not that I'd know this first hand. (Or should I say first wrist?)

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Phlip

It's to block out the mental pain for a while.

Not that I'd know this first hand. (Or should I say first wrist?)

First hip in my case :/

I did it places people couldnt see. Didnt want people to know about it because I knew they would find it weird or fuss about it.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

First hip in my case :/

I did it places people couldnt see. Didnt want people to know about it because I knew they would find it weird or fuss about it.

So that knocks the 'attention' theory out which is interesting, I don't understand it but think its very sad that people would hurt themselves

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by rhino

So that knocks the 'attention' theory out which is interesting, I don't understand it but think its very sad that people would hurt themselves

I dont understand it myself to be honest. But people are too quick to cry attention seeker usually. I know a few people who did it, and 9 times out of 10, it was in places people wouldnt see...stomachs/legs etc because they didnt want people knowing they did it.

The urge never really goes though. Whenever Im pissed off about something or upset, I always feel the need to do it. I have learnt not to now though, but hell, it took a long time :/

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I dont understand it myself to be honest. But people are too quick to cry attention seeker usually. I know a few people who did it, and 9 times out of 10, it was in places people wouldnt see...stomachs/legs etc because they didnt want people knowing they did it.

The urge never really goes though. Whenever Im pissed off about something or upset, I always feel the need to do it. I have learnt not to now though, but hell, it took a long time :/

I can understand that, I guess a lot of people have 'crutches' or strangely enough security blankets they rely on whenever things in life get start to get too tough. It could be eating habits, alcohol, drugs, gambling, whatever takes them away from reality, so I understand that the urge to self harm would stay with you, but I guess as you get older and move away from it, you can control the urge much easier.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I dont understand it myself to be honest. But people are too quick to cry attention seeker usually. I know a few people who did it, and 9 times out of 10, it was in places people wouldnt see...stomachs/legs etc because they didnt want people knowing they did it.

The urge never really goes though. Whenever Im pissed off about something or upset, I always feel the need to do it. I have learnt not to now though, but hell, it took a long time :/

Indeed. Most are ashamed to be found doing it - hence the places that is is likely to be go un-noticed, and part of the problem that the 'issue' goes on for so long before any medical/psychological intervention takes place: by which time - the road to recover is a far longer journey to travel.

As I say, I can't quite get my head around it - but one thing is for sure: it's distressing for both the self harmer and those around them when they become aware of what is happening.