[Ammi]

It isn't bad to be at home in the early years, if that's what you choose but it's important to have a career too as part of parenting is financial support

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Ammi

It isn't bad to be at home in the early years, if that's what you choose but it's important to have a career too as part of parenting is financial support

But if the father is happy to be the one providing the financial support and the mother is happy for him to be the bread winner then I also see nothing wrong in that situation.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by ukturtle

But if the father is happy to be the one providing the financial support and the mother is happy for him to be the bread winner then I also see nothing wrong in that situation.

Personally, I would never be reliant on the father, with such a high divorce rate I would rather know I can be self supportive

[Beastie]

Originally Posted by Ammi

Personally, I would never be reliant on the father, with such a high divorce rate I would rather know I can be self supportive

Ahh yes. Okay. This is another thing. Back in the day there was less of a divorce rate. Most women found their husband, got married and had some children and lived old together.a divorce and the dad was the breadwinner and the mum stayed at home. Even if the mum had hardly no savings she would still get half of what the dad has earnt. In which.. I agree to. At the end of the day the mum and dad agreed to get married, agreed for the dad to be the breadwinner and the mum to stay at home so then they should have 50/50 of everything together!

Nowadays, no offence but people are more fickle. So if there is a divorce well.. even if there is

This is why nowadays we are getting older parents. People feel like they can't rely on people as much as they used to. So now we either get older parents or very young mums who are sponging off the goverment. There are less mothers in the middle ground really.

Also times have changed now. Everyone really needs a job to get by. So for someone inspiring to be a mother, they should get a job first when they leave school to at least earn a bit of money.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Beastie

Ahh yes. Okay. This is another thing. Back in the day there was less of a divorce rate. Most women found their husband, got married and had some children and lived old together.a divorce and the dad was the breadwinner and the mum stayed at home. Even if the mum had hardly no savings she would still get half of what the dad has earnt. In which.. I agree to. At the end of the day the mum and dad agreed to get married, agreed for the dad to be the breadwinner and the mum to stay at home so then they should have 50/50 of everything together!

Nowadays, no offence but people are more fickle. So if there is a divorce well.. even if there is

This is why nowadays we are getting older parents. People feel like they can't rely on people as much as they used to. So now we either get older parents or very young mums who are sponging off the goverment. There are less mothers in the middle ground really.

Also times have changed now. Everyone really needs a job to get by. So for someone inspiring to be a mother, they should get a job first when they leave school to at least earn a bit of money.

I have nothing against women who are full time mothers but fathers are not always there forever, for whatever reason, so I would not be totally reliant on that for my income. I've known too many friends who's only income has been their husbands and then the marriage has broken and they've had to work but have lost their confidence. That's just my personal experience. Also people sometimes want to give their children so much and this can not always be done on one income

[Shasown]

Got to love this thread and the archaic attitudes of some posts.

All about women motherhood and babies, fact of life, stay at home dads are on the increase. Oh and it isnt always the man who buggers off and leaves the other parent holding the babies. It might not be as common but believe me it does happen.

[lily.]

Originally Posted by Shasown

Got to love this thread and the archaic attitudes of some posts.

All about women motherhood and babies, fact of life, stay at home dads are on the increase. Oh and it isnt always the man who buggers off and leaves the other parent holding the babies. It might not be as common but believe me it does happen.

Truth.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Shasown

Got to love this thread and the archaic attitudes of some posts.

All about women motherhood and babies, fact of life, stay at home dads are on the increase. Oh and it isnt always the man who buggers off and leaves the other parent holding the babies. It might not be as common but believe me it does happen.

Very true Shasown. My husband looks after our kids mostly during the day as I have a full time job where as he's on call so has to stick around the village. I definitely think it's better for the kids to have a parent raising them (either of the two) I did only work part time up until my son started school as, at the time my husband worked on building sites and I didn't want my kids raised in creches or by child minders. At the end of the day parents have to work as a team to do what's best for their kids. I realise a parent staying at home isn't always an option for people but I do think it's the best option if at all possible.

And on the point of fathers and fathers rights, I think (definitely in Ireland anyway) the law needs to catch up with the changing times as it's completely biassed in favour of the mother atm