[Ninastar]

It's common for people with aspergers to have a fear of other people. I see what you mean, but I do think it's a different scenario.

[Kizzy]

No they don't ninastar to be fair, some are very outgoing believe me i know

[Ninastar]

It's a common trait. Not all are like that, but it is very common. I think it's more of a social aspect more than anything. So I can see why you'd think the two link, but I think with Asexuality, it's more of a choice/mind thing, rather than fear.

[GypsyGoth]

I can empathise with asexuality.

[Kizzy]

Aspergers is a mind thing, my point is they are not so much afraid but that they cannot make any link to a sexual awakening that we all do.That for some the switch just never gets turned on (pardon the pun) in adolecence.

[billy123]

Ive never seen it as anything more than a chemical reaction in the brain.
Its just different levels of Testosterone and oestrogen on all scales from extreme to neutral nothing more nothing less and nothing to do with sexuality.
we are just all built with different levels of these hormone chemicals that drive us sexually.

Not saying im right thats just how i view it.

[SharkAttack]

Originally Posted by bobnot

Ive never seen it as anything more than a chemical reaction in the brain.
Its just different levels of Testosterone and oestrogen on all scales from extreme to neutral nothing more nothing less and nothing to do with sexuality.
we are just all built with different levels of these hormone chemicals that drive us sexually.

Not saying im right thats just how i view it.

Yes, I watched House last week too.

But actually, yes, they did cover sexual drive and the taking of testosterone shots to enhance it.

[Ammi]

Aspergers can affect all intimacy, sexual and social, whereas, asexuality is only the sexual side....from what I believe asexual people still have a desire for romantic love, maybe even more so than others....I find this fascinating

[Ammi]

...I find Ukt's post particularly interesting because it causes me to wonder...'are you born asexual' or can you have an interest in sex...then lose it...I might try to introduce this as a 'staffroom topic' at work....hear other peoples views

[billy123]

Originally Posted by SharkAttack

Yes, I watched House last week too.

But actually, yes, they did cover sexual drive and the taking of testosterone shots to enhance it.

Never seen it or know what that is.

[fruit_cake]

auto-sexual, in love with oneself

[CharlieO]

I don't find it that hard to understand. I do not have very much desire to engage in sexual relations. I wouldn't oppose to it but I don't really want to do it.
What does that make me? Just cba?

[Niamh.]

Must be very difficult for some who wants a romantic relationship but not a sexual one to find a like minded partner though

I can cope without romance/attraction/attachment, but I couldn't cope without sexual intimacy.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Jesus.H.Christ

I can cope without romance/attraction/attachment, but I couldn't cope without sexual intimacy.

You wouldn't mind sleeping with someone you don't find attractive?

[Brother Leon]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

You wouldn't mind sleeping with someone you don't find attractive?

Happens to the best of us



Not me because I'm a good boy

[Roy Mars III]

sometimes you have to take that grenade for the good of the people

[MTVN]

There was an article on the BBC not long ago about a asexual girl in a relationship with someone who wasn't, he says it doesn't bother him that much but I dunno if a relationship like that can really be sustained

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-16552173

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by King_Anton

Happens to the best of us



Not me because I'm a good boy

Originally Posted by Roy Mars III

sometimes you have to take that grenade for the good of the people

And women are the ones who get labelled slags? There's no justice in the world

Originally Posted by Niamh.

You wouldn't mind sleeping with someone you don't find attractive?

Not straight away, but in the middle of a drought I would, yes. I'm not attracted to myself, but I still have sex with my own hand fairly regularly.

Originally Posted by Niamh.

And women are the ones who get labelled slags? There's no justice in the world

Not by me. All power to men and women that aren't afraid or inhibited by their own sexuality.

[Brother Leon]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

And women are the ones who get labelled slags? There's no justice in the world

I only label one a slag

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Jesus.H.Christ

Not by me. All power to men and women that aren't afraid or inhibited by their own sexuality.

I hate it, especially hearing women calling eachother names like that

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I hate it, especially hearing women calling eachother names like that

It's just a generic insult these days, but stems from a time when men wanted to control women and their sexuality. To control women, shame them into feeling bad for natural feelings.

You're either comfortable with your sexuality, or you're not. Slagginess doesn't really exist.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Jack_

See part of the reason I find this so interesting is because it's so difficult to try and explain. With heterosexuality/homosexuality etc you could argue it's a result of your upbringing, your surroundings and how you've essentially been socialised into a certain sexual orientation (that's if you favour nurture over nature, which I do), but how do you explain asexuality? You can't not be nurtured, if that makes sense. So then how does it come about? In a sense I think it raises more questions about how people's sexual orientations are dictated than other sexualities do.

Hold on a min, i've just noticed this jack... Are you suggesting your sexuality is solely based on how you were raised?
I dont agree here, and feel sexuality is predetermined from birth. I also believe asexuality is too, even if you have previously had a sex life there is little or no drive or desire as has been voiced on this thread.
It is higher on the autistic spectrum, and my thoughts are that those who believe themselves to be asexual are on the spectrum, even if only displaying slight pragmatic difficulties. This is only my view and i dont expect anyone to share it, but it would be interesting to see if anyone on here believes they maybe asexual to take an online autism spectrum test.
I dont in anyway mean to offend anyone.