[Me. I Am Salman]

Originally Posted by Marc

Because 3 year olds can't take the pain and 4 year olds can?

Omg I don't know no need for the interrogation

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

I think that it should be used, but only as a last resort.

I've noticed recently that a lot of parent's have no idea how to control their children.

The thing about it is though most people hit there kids out of anger or frustration and that's not how you should discipline your kids imo

[Mystic Mock]

As long as you don't hit them to hard then I think it's alright, but I would prefer to threaten them with a smacking than actually going through with it if I was a parent.

[Marc]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

No, a good parent should never have to resort to any sort of violence. Anyone who does it will earn nothing but the full extent of my wrath.

That's hard to say though, society and school is a major factor in kids behaviour and that's pretty detached from the parent's control

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by jedward fever

As long as you don't hit them to hard then I think it's alright, but I would prefer to threaten them with a smacking than actually going through with it if I was a parent.

That's a pitfall of parenting imo. Eventually the clever little buggers cotton onto the fact that your threats are empty and don't behave.

[Marc]

Originally Posted by Salman!

Omg I don't know no need for the interrogation

It just seemed a bit odd that you think a threshold should be put on smacking a child

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by 08marsh

That's a pitfall of parenting imo. Eventually the clever little buggers cotton onto the fact that your threats are empty and don't behave.

But that's when I probably would start doing it if they was really being naughty.

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by Marc

That's hard to say though, society and school is a major factor in kids behaviour and that's pretty detached from the parent's control

A child's behavior doesn't come into it, parents shouldn't have to resort to violence regardless. Ruling kids with the fear of being hurt is a terrible way of raising children.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by 08marsh

That's a pitfall of parenting imo. Eventually the clever little buggers cotton onto the fact that your threats are empty and don't behave.

Threatening to smack them and not doing isn't the answer but following through with threats has to be done, like grounding them or taking away a toy or not letting them watch TV for a while etc.

[Me. I Am Salman]

Originally Posted by Marc

It just seemed a bit odd that you think a threshold should be put on smacking a child

Just feels wrong to punish a child who isn't even old enough to go to school

[Marc]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

A child's behavior doesn't come into it, parents shouldn't have to resort to violence regardless. Ruling kids with the fear of being hurt is a terrible way of raising children.

I don't know if you can say that tbh in fact you basically just said my mum is a terrible parent. Until we have kids, we won't know what's best.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Threatening to smack them and not doing isn't the answer but following through with threats has to be done, like grounding them or taking away a toy or not letting them watch TV for a while etc.

Definitely.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Marc

I don't know if you can say that tbh in fact you basically just said my mum is a terrible parent. Until we have kids, we won't know what's best.

Think that's a bit of an overreaction.

[Ammi]

..I remember when I was younger and say I was running around and fell over or bumped into something and hurt myself..I'd then get a smack for running in the first place...
..it never seemed fair to get hurt twice

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I remember when I was younger and say I was running around and fell over or bumped into something and hurt myself..I'd then get a smack for running in the first place...
..it never seemed fair to get hurt twice

lmao awww

[Z]

I was a little asshole until my younger brother was born, I've seen some of the video tapes my parents made, I honestly don't know how I didn't drive them to murdering me and burying me in the back garden I know they smacked me on occasion (and seriously, I've no idea how they only got pushed that far a couple of times) but evidently it worked - I stopped being a brat and that was that. Again, I don't know if it's something I could physically do but then I'm sure my parents thought the same before they had the child from hell

[Marc]

Originally Posted by 08marsh

Think that's a bit of an overreaction.

I just took it as it was said to me. I'm not overreacting or looking for an argument.

I think the second part of my post is still valid, we won't know how to bring our children up until we're parents.

[Marc]

Dean knows I'm not picking a fight.

[InOne]

As long as it's not abuse I doubt it does them any harm. Toughens them up a bit, can't live in cotton wool land forever so may as well start early. Think of it as like training a dog.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I remember when I was younger and say I was running around and fell over or bumped into something and hurt myself..I'd then get a smack for running in the first place...
..it never seemed fair to get hurt twice

Tbf that is harsh as children run and fall over.

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by Marc

I don't know if you can say that tbh in fact you basically just said my mum is a terrible parent. Until we have kids, we won't know what's best.

Sorry but that's how I feel, smacking is for lazy parents.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by jedward fever

Tbf that is harsh as children run and fall over.

..tbf it was a different era though JF..they still had the cane at school

[bbfan1991]

I think a little tap is acceptable if kids are being naughty to teach them a lesson that what they did is wrong, although some parents go too far sometimes in wanting to teach them a lesson.

[Marc]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

Sorry but that's how I feel, smacking is for lazy parents.

Think you need a smack on the bum tbh

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I remember when I was younger and say I was running around and fell over or bumped into something and hurt myself..I'd then get a smack for running in the first place...
..it never seemed fair to get hurt twice

This I dont think is right at ALL

Seems very unfair, you have already been punished by falling over