[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

If true: then surely this is the very thing that she needs to impress upon GP/consultants/Surgeons?

the matter of the 'promise' to remove healthy tissue/ breast has already been addressed. No surgeon in their right mind, would remove good tissue at the bequest of the patient: because the patient simply wanted it removed, despite the recommendeations / expertise / experience of previous case studies of the surgeon involved.

sorry vicky, but I can't help get the feeling that mum isn't facing up to the brutal truth here: she is not more knowledgeable that those who are dealing with such situations day in and day out.... and she should consider their reasons for their reasons and recommendations.

If a person had a tumor in their left arm, and wanted the surgeon recommended removal only of left arm and not also the right arm: but patient 'felt' that removal of right arm at same time of initial operation would recifty to their satisfactino: I would say the surgeon was right and the patient was wrong.l

Oddly enough this is quite similar to what the consultant said to try and explain their position. He said that if she had an op to remove one of her legs, would she want the other leg removed too.

This analogy doesnt make sense to me really, as you have use for your legs, and it would make a huge difference if you had no legs. The breast (once past childbearing age) is just a useless flap of skin basically.


She knows shes not more knowledgeable than people qualified in that area. But it still doesnt make sense that they refuse to remove her breast...and the reason given is that it is 'unneccesary surgery'. However they would be more than happy to perform other 'unneccesary surgery' to rebuild the breast that has already been removed. Her view is that if she went ahead with this reconstruction that they are pushing her to have, come next year her other breast may need removed (as she HAS been told this is a risk)...she might have to go through all of this again, and then she would be stuck with one plastic boob...and then eventually have to have another reconstruction again. And that even if it doesnt come back in the other one, having a reconstruction, with all the grafts involved, is still a massive operation compared to a simple removal. Surely if the removal is unnecessary, then rebuilding is also unnecessary...

Anyway, the point of this thread was about me trying to understand the consultants reason for lying, and wanting to know if anyone could see their point of view, so thanks for your input as I do understand it a little bit more now I still do disagree with them lying in the first place though.