[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I don't think he did change..I think it always meant more to her than it did to him..

hmm....

[Ammi]

..I don't think it was ever more than a flirty game to him ITILY2....something to massage his ego...and she ingnored what had been the primary thing in the first place..that he had a long term girlfriend..well, she didn't ignore it, but she did allow it to be pushed into the background and allow herself to continue the flirtation anyway and eventually convinced herself she had fallen for him..when, it should have been the whole reason why she didn't pusue it..there was never a 'relationship' between them in the first place..he was wrong to allow her to think there was...he had a partner...and it's possible he felt she wasn't giving him enough attention at the time...whether it was 'online' or not...he was decieving his partner and basically cheating

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I don't think it was ever more than a flirty game to him ITILY2....something to massage his ego...and she ingnored what had been the primary thing in the first place..that he had a long term girlfriend..well, she didn't ignore it, but she did allow it to be pushed into the background and allow herself to continue the flirtation anyway and eventually convinced herself she had fallen for him..when, it should have been the whole reason why she didn't pusue it..there was never a 'relationship' between them in the first place..he was wrong to allow her to think there was...he had a partner...and it's possible he felt she wasn't giving him enough attention at the time...whether it was 'online' or not...he was decieving his partner and basically cheating

I think there's truth to this. He might've done the classic cheating man's "oh my partner treats me like crap. She thinks i'm this, that, that's why I nice when you and I talk"

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

I think there's truth to this. He might've done the classic cheating man's "oh my partner treats me like crap. She thinks i'm this, that, that's why I nice when you and I talk"

..yes because he had said it was a long term relationship..and relationships go through stale patches as well....but she didn't pay enough attention to the important part though...he was in a relationship...good or bad, he wasn't free to pursue anything else and she put herself in the position of getting hurt and reading more into it than she should....

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yes because he had said it was a long term relationship..and relationships go through stale patches as well....but she didn't pay enough attention to the important part though...he was in a relationship...good or bad, he wasn't free to pursue anything else and she put herself in the position of getting hurt and reading more into it than she should....

True, poor girl. Sad thing is people can't help who they fall for. Now she has to deal with those feelings while the guy goes on with his relationship. ......or she could poke the guy's girlfriend on facebook and go on Jeremy kyle Why she guy be happy while girl drowns in his made-destruction?

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Ammi this is making me think of those moral dilemmas you used to do, we need another of those!

..yeah, I love those..I'll try to google some tomorrow..see if I can find some new ones....

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

True, poor girl. Sad thing is people can't help who they fall for. Now she has to deal with those feelings while the guy goes on with his relationship. ......or she could poke the guy's girlfriend on facebook and go on Jeremy kyle Why she guy be happy while girl drowns in his made-destruction?

..the thing is they can ITILY2...they totally control who they fall for..for instance if I ever thought I could be even in the slightest way attracted to someone other than my partner...I would make sure I was never in the position were I could ever be tempted...that's in out control..to think that an initial attraction could stay as a friendship without any emotions becoming hurt is just niave...but worst of all..his partner will become hurt most when she didn't pursue anything...she will still see this as a betrayal...

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah, I love those..I'll try to google some tomorrow..see if I can find some new ones....



..the thing is they can ITILY2...they totally control who they fall for..for instance if I ever thought I could be even in the slightest way attracted to someone other than my partner...I would make sure I was never in the position were I could ever be tempted...that's in out control..to think that an initial attraction could stay as a friendship without any emotions becoming hurt is just niave...but worst of all..his partner will become hurt most when she didn't pursue anything...she will still see this as a betrayal...

This, this, this. I hate that excuse

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah, I love those..I'll try to google some tomorrow..see if I can find some new ones....



..the thing is they can ITILY2...they totally control who they fall for..for instance if I ever thought I could be even in the slightest way attracted to someone other than my partner...I would make sure I was never in the position were I could ever be tempted...that's in out control..to think that an initial attraction could stay as a friendship without any emotions becoming hurt is just niave...but worst of all..his partner will become hurt most when she didn't pursue anything...she will still see this as a betrayal...

This sounds sensible, and do-able however there are situations where one can't avoid the person-say maybe if they are colleagues or a fellow student at uni-then what?