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Ammi · 26-01-2013, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Saph

Well i'm not gay but i've often wondered/worried about my future seen as i'm quite an independent person, I cant see myself getting married to someone :\ and plus I have no idea what I want to do with my life which is worrying because i'll be 20 next year so my time to be young and go through education is running out.. and I often worry that i'm wasting my 'young' life away by doing nothing all day, I don't go to parties and stuff because I don't drink or smoke or anything and although i'm quite a popular person in general, I've never had a proper best friend so I've just gotten used to doing stuff by myself.. which sounds sad

When I was in year 11 I always thought that by the time I was 18 i'd have my whole life planned out and probably be famous living in LA and that hasn't happened (yet).

and I've just noticed this has nothing to do with this thread but here it is anyway

..it's really easy when you're young to think that being 20yrs and not a teenager anymore is 'old'..but it's really not Saph...a good way of deciding what you want to do is to do some work placements if you can...things that you think might be interesting or suit you...I mean you might yet be famous and living in LA at some point but you have to have something to be famous for..and, as you say, you're an independent person, so you could just approach companies/organisations and ask them if you could help in anyway..put together a CV/portfolio...and it's fine not to have a best friend either....not everyone has one, I don't...I just have a few closer friends...

Niall · 26-01-2013, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah, I do understand that and that it's not easy for the words to come out..heterosexuals don't have to make any announcements..'hey, I'm straight dad'..they just take someone home to meet their parents or mention that they have been seeing someone..but I can also see that just taking someone home to meet him, when you find someone probably wouldn't go down well either....there is the possibility that your mum has already told him and he already knows, but if that was the case, it would be good if he could open the conversation and not wait for you to have to 'announce' anything.....some men find that difficult though, not just because you're gay but any type of sex/relationship talk....

Yeah idk it's all very silly. Maybe in the future having to admit it will be something that will stop happening. I hope so anyway. I doubt my Mum has told him anyhow. She lives in Ireland and they're divorced and my parents generally hate each other.

When I'm at Uni i'll probably be more comfortable telling everyone anyway. I don't mind talking about it behind a keyboard, but irl it's a totally different story.

Saph · 26-01-2013, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Ammi

..it's really easy when you're young to think that being 20yrs and not a teenager anymore is 'old'..but it's really not Saph...a good way of deciding what you want to do is to do some work placements if you can...things that you think might be interesting or suit you...I mean you might yet be famous and living in LA at some point but you have to have something to be famous for..and, as you say, you're an independent person, so you could just approach companies/organisations and ask them if you could help in anyway..put together a CV/portfolio...and it's fine not to have a best friend either....not everyone has one, I don't...I just have a few closer friends...

Thank you

Ninastar · 26-01-2013, 12:38 PM

Still confused cause the way i feel about both genders is ****ed up

Firewire · 26-01-2013, 12:46 PM

Yes. I've always known that I'm gay, I guess. But up until about two years ago I hid it from everyone, including myself. I tried to convince myself otherwise which is why it took so long to come to terms with it. I suppose I didn't want to be gay because if I was I'd have to face up to homophobic people, I wouldn't be able to have a "proper" family and that from my opinion would have been such a difficult life. I knew I found the male body attractive, but I just wanted it to be a phase. I still convinced myself that I found girls attractive when in reality, I didn't. I even convinced myself that I had feelings for a girl, that was the most awkward moment of my life when I told her that I had feelings for her because I actually didn't, but I didn't know that at the time.

I had a close friend. He was male. I spoke to him a lot and made me feel more comfortable about myself. I finally realised that I was gay and there was nothing I could do about it. He gave me the courage that I needed to tell myself but also to tell others. I developed feelings for him, proper feelings, but of course he's straight. We're no longer friends because I found out that he used me and told people the topics of our conversation, so he told everyone I was gay before I did myself. But I didn't know that until a few months ago, I thought I trusted him.

I haven't came out to my family yet, but most people in my school know. I don't know when I'll come to my family, I've thought about it but I just don't know what to say. I'm not sure how long I'll be waiting before I finally have it I me to tell them but I honestly find it difficult to just turn around and say "I'm gay" and honestly, I'm not quite sure why.

Munchkins · 26-01-2013, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Firewire

Yes. I've always known that I'm gay, I guess. But up until about two years ago I hid it from everyone, including myself. I tried to convince myself otherwise which is why it took so long to come to terms with it. I suppose I didn't want to be gay because if I was I'd have to face up to homophobic people, I wouldn't be able to have a "proper" family and that from my opinion would have been such a difficult life. I knew I found the male body attractive, but I just wanted it to be a phase. I still convinced myself that I found girls attractive when in reality, I didn't. I even convinced myself that I had feelings for a girl, that was the most awkward moment of my life when I told her that I had feelings for her because I actually didn't, but I didn't know that at the time.

I had a close friend. He was male. I spoke to him a lot and made me feel more comfortable about myself. I finally realised that I was gay and there was nothing I could do about it. He gave me the courage that I needed to tell myself but also to tell others. I developed feelings for him, proper feelings, but of course he's straight. We're no longer friends because I found out that he used me and told people the topics of our conversation, so he told everyone I was gay before I did myself. But I didn't know that until a few months ago, I thought I trusted him.

I haven't came out to my family yet, but most people in my school know. I don't know when I'll come to my family, I've thought about it but I just don't know what to say. I'm not sure how long I'll be waiting before I finally have it I me to tell them but I honestly find it difficult to just turn around and say "I'm gay" and honestly, I'm not quite sure why.

Honestly that is so awful that he betrayed you like, absolute twat :/, i hope you do eventually manage to tell your family, and gain acceptance from them all..
And don't worry about not having a proper family and that, what even is a proper family tbh? it's just what society percieves as one.

Firewire · 26-01-2013, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkins

Honestly that is so awful that he betrayed you like, absolute twat :/, i hope you do eventually manage to tell your family, and gain acceptance from them all..
And don't worry about not having a proper family and that, what even is a proper family tbh? it's just what society percieves as one.

Yeah, and I didn't even know! I honestly must have been so stupid because I knew he had a big mouth but I was like "no, no, he would never" and he obviously did.

Thank you, I don't think the acceptance will be a problem but it's still there in my mind that maybe I won't be, but that's something I will have to face because not everyone is going to accept me for what I am... Some really stupid anti-gay people out there who believe the Bible is everything.

Oh yeah, I realise that now. I do want to have a family and it doesn't bother me any more that it won't be a "traditional" family because traditions are silly.

armand.kay · 26-01-2013, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Saph

Well i'm not gay but i've often wondered/worried about my future seen as i'm quite an independent person, I cant see myself getting married to someone :\ and plus I have no idea what I want to do with my life which is worrying because i'll be 20 next year so my time to be young and go through education is running out.. and I often worry that i'm wasting my 'young' life away by doing nothing all day, I don't go to parties and stuff because I don't drink or smoke or anything and although i'm quite a popular person in general, I've never had a proper best friend so I've just gotten used to doing stuff by myself.. which sounds sad

When I was in year 11 I always thought that by the time I was 18 i'd have my whole life planned out and probably be famous living in LA and that hasn't happened (yet).

and I've just noticed this has nothing to do with this thread but here it is anyway

Make a sex tape

Joseline · 26-01-2013, 02:37 PM

People used to tell me I am a ****** but I tell them, the only things that i paid for are my teeth, my tits, my hair and my nails. All this ass is real.

Saph · 26-01-2013, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Joseline

People used to tell me I am a ****** but I tell them, the only things that i paid for are my teeth, my tits, my hair and my nails. All this ass is real.

Joseline · 26-01-2013, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Saph

perfection right here baby

armand.kay · 26-01-2013, 02:59 PM

I've always thought I was straight(which is weird because all my gay friends say they've always known) I have even had crushes on girls :/. It wasn't until I was in year 7 when I developed this huge crush on a boy I realised I may be gay. Right now I'm openly gay but sometimes I still am sexually attracted to women but I've only had one relationship with a girl because Im a bit too camp for most girls :/

Stu · 26-01-2013, 06:49 PM

I'm bisexual but I don't like having sex with men. That's the only struggle if you could call it that. Sometimes I feel cruel going to gay bars and scoring men only to have to tell them mid making out "I like you but this is as far as it goes, you know that?". Heck having a cuddle and getting a blowjob with a woman is better than sex, too. Sex isn't overrated - most people love it - but me personally it's not a priority. I fine it quite boring.

The other bollocks is that I do waaaay better with men than I do with women and I kind of would rather if it was the other way around. But I like going out wearing nail paint, black eyeshadow, sometimes there is glitter, I have hair that belongs in a 1986 copy of Smash Hits! etc and whilst that's who I am and what I love and I wouldn't change it to to increase my odds the fact is that it is something gay men will go for and be comfortable with way more than straight women.

To that end most of the women I've got with with are bisexual or at least extremely open to experimentation as well.

Marcus. · 26-01-2013, 06:52 PM

no never

Joseline · 26-01-2013, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Stu

Sex isn't overrated - most people love it - but me personally it's not a priority. I fine it quite boring.

Your obviously not doing it right. When me and Stebie get down mmhhmmm

Stu · 26-01-2013, 07:23 PM

Nothing turns me on more than a good gimmick poster.

I really want to listen to Marvin Gaye now for some reason. That would set a mood.

thesheriff443 · 26-01-2013, 07:29 PM

i never question my sexuality, but i have had look's from gay guy's and comment's i take it as a compliment, if a nice person who is gay give's me the eye.

Benjamin · 26-01-2013, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Joseline

Your obviously not doing it right. When me and Stebie get down mmhhmmm

Why does everything you post have to end in a "sassy" gif? It's a tad annoying.

But yes, sex for just having sex is overrated. Much better to have sex with someone you actually connect with and spend a lot of time with as you get to know each other a lot and know what's good and what's not. I got over one night stands a few years ago. Waking up drunk, not remembering the sex, where I am or their name got pretty boring.

Niamh. · 26-01-2013, 07:45 PM

I struggle with your sexuality alot Ben :'(

thesheriff443 · 26-01-2013, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh.

I struggle with your sexuality alot Ben :'(

get him drunk niamh

, as he as said he wont remember in the morning

Stu · 26-01-2013, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Ben

Why does everything you post have to end in a "sassy" gif? It's a tad annoying.

But yes, sex for just having sex is overrated. Much better to have sex with someone you actually connect with and spend a lot of time with as you get to know each other a lot and know what's good and what's not. I got over one night stands a few years ago. Waking up drunk, not remembering the sex, where I am or their name got pretty boring.

Drunk sex is just awful. Not being able to have a clear memory of it, not being able to soberly take in every little sensation and what not ... alcohol just does nothing for sex. It's amazing that so many people are pissed when they have it off.

Stoned sex ... is another story.