[JamesBond007]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I don't think it ever hurts to be generous. bottom line is always try to pay when you can. BUT...

I think if you ask someone out to a specific place, you should pay, because you can't assume that the person you invite can afford where you take them.

IF you INVITE someone somewhere, then it should be expected that you are going to pay.


If I INVITE someone somewhere, I expect to take care of them. And if they INVITE me somewhere, I expect to be taken care of. Isn't that just basic etiquette?

When you invite someone, you are responsible for them.

There's generous and there's been outright greedy. First few dates i would pay for everything but after that i'd expect things to be going each way. If the person couldn't afford it then yes i would gladly pay but if its some woman who has a Job but still expects things to be paid for her a few months into a reltionship then un-huh ain't happening. There's a difference about a first date then a few months into a reltionship and been a doormat instead of been a equal reltionship.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by JamesBond007

There's generous and there's been outright greedy. First few dates i would pay for everything but after that i'd expect things to be going each way. If the person couldn't afford it then yes i would gladly pay but if its some woman who has a Job but still expects things to be paid for her a few months into a reltionship then un-huh ain't happening. There's a difference about a first date then a few months into a reltionship and been a doormat instead of been a equal reltionship.

I understand what you are saying, but at the same time, it's not fair if someone invites you to an event, that you might not even want to go to, but you go just to be accomodating, and then they expect you to pay for your own drinks?? even if yur only there to please them? no, that's not right. When you are invited to an event by someone, they should pay.

And when you invite someone to an event with you, you should pay. That's just how it works. You can't invite someone to an event to be with you, and expect them to pay for their own drinks. that's just gross.

Oh yeah - Bitches be crazy.

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by JamesBond007

There's generous and there's been outright greedy. First few dates i would pay for everything but after that i'd expect things to be going each way. If the person couldn't afford it then yes i would gladly pay but if its some woman who has a Job but still expects things to be paid for her a few months into a reltionship then un-huh ain't happening. There's a difference about a first date then a few months into a reltionship and been a doormat instead of been a equal reltionship.

I agree with this, yes if you invite someone on a date then the inviter should pay, but then if there are several dates it should become more of a 50/50 thing especially if the lady in question is in paid employment. As a Mum of two boys I would be pretty annoyed if girls wanted them to pay for everything every time especially if working.