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Originally Posted by Niamh.

They're great observations actually and I can't understand anyone accusing you of being fickle when you clearly have proper reasons for that choice. I think Hazel and Dexter are actually very similar in some respects but the problem is people alot of times only seem to like those qualities in male HMs and not female for some reason

It's a common double standard... men are "cheeky" where women are "bitchy", a man luring away a women from her boyfriend is a "player" where a female doing the same is a "homewrecker" - on the flipside, a girl being lured away from her boyfriend by said player is a "slut", whereas a man lured into cheating by a homewrecking woman is a powerless victim... it's crazy.