[kate2013]

People pleasing is dishonest. Its a common behaviour but Charlie is picking up resentments against people holding on to them and then only airing them when she is a fault with something. What this does is make the person feel like that person had been thinking that about her all this time and then using it in defense instead of admitting she is at fault for something happening in the here and now. You may think Charlie is a nice person for not confronting people but what she does is collects resentments in her little bag, drags it along, then when she causes someone hurt she reaches into her bag picks out a resentment and throws it at that person as ammunition, leaving the other person startled and wondering where the hell it come from. Then they think well if she thought that about me why be my friend, made worse by finding out not only did she think that about you, but she was telling that to someone she knew you disliked. Which is what Charlie has done. People dont know where they stand with people like that, it makes them untrustworthy because their never honest with you.

Friendship isnt easy, but Id rather someone talk to me about a problem in our friendship and work
through it, than carry a resentment and slag me off to other people