[mr rochester]

I am starting to come full circle with Lauren. When I heard she was going in I thought - Oh no! Then I could see she was making a huge effort and I warmed to her. I felt sorry that her mother has sent her in with an unnecessarily large 'old lady's' wardrobe. I thought her mother was vile when Emma interviewed her - saying she had not missed her and pointing out that Lauren has curvature of the spine (meaning that viewers should not judge her on her bad deportment). I believe that it's her mother's cruel and constant pushing of Lauren that has caused Lauren's separation from reality (not her sexual dysmorphia). However, as time has gone by I am struck by how Lauren demands so much support without realising it. She believes that if she polishes it will keep her in - yet still leaves used tissues all over the floor. Whilst it is important for people to adjust to others with special needs Lauren is seemingly divorced from reality and in a complete bubble. Her clothes are not helping and her neediness is getting very hard to watch. She does not seem to engage when watching others do their tasks. I'm afraid I am struggling to like her again. Maybe this will change...

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by mr rochester

I am starting to come full circle with Lauren. When I heard she was going in I thought - Oh no! Then I could see she was making a huge effort and I warmed to her. I felt sorry that her mother has sent her in with an unnecessarily large 'old lady's' wardrobe. I thought her mother was vile when Emma interviewed her - saying she had not missed her and pointing out that Lauren has curvature of the spine (meaning that viewers should not judge her on her bad deportment). I believe that it's her mother's cruel and constant pushing of Lauren that has caused Lauren's separation from reality (not her sexual dysmorphia). However, as time has gone by I am struck by how Lauren demands so much support without realising it. She believes that if she polishes it will keep her in - yet still leaves used tissues all over the floor. Whilst it is important for people to adjust to others with special needs Lauren is seemingly divorced from reality and in a complete bubble. Her clothes are not helping and her neediness is getting very hard to watch. She does not seem to engage when watching others do their tasks. I'm afraid I am struggling to like her again. Maybe this will change...

At least she's trying. Bless her.

[mr rochester]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

At least she's trying. Bless her.

I know and I feel really bad for thinking what I do Vanessa. I think this must be how the HM's feel too. She's trying very hard but she is just so irritating at times...

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by mr rochester

I know and I feel really bad for thinking what I do Vanessa. I think this must be how the HM's feel too. She's trying very hard but she is just so irritating at times...

She has dispraxia, but she hasn't told anyone in there. It's very hard for her to remember to pick up after herself.

[mr rochester]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

She has dispraxia, but she hasn't told anyone in there. It's very hard for her to remember to pick up after herself.

I heard that she has dyspraxia which I understand will make her clumsy - I did't realise this also affects the ability to see the trail of mess she leaves behind. If this is the case then she should tell them as they might be more forgiving. It's all just so complex with Lauren. I think she may also have vitiligo too...there's no end to the complications. Lauren's life is very hard indeed...

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by mr rochester

I heard that she has dyspraxia which I understand will make her clumsy - I did't realise this also affects the ability to see the trail of mess she leaves behind. If this is the case then she should tell them as they might be more forgiving. It's all just so complex with Lauren. I think she may also have vitiligo too...there's no end to the complications. Lauren's life is very hard indeed...

I think so. I love that she has kept it to herself. She could have used it to get sympathy, but she didn't.

[mr rochester]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

I think so. I love that she has kept it to herself. She could have used it to get sympathy, but she didn't.

Not too sure if that's wise though. It might be better to ask for understanding - if they knew they might be able to understand and make allowances for her dyspraxia.

To be honest I don't think any of them have gone in there to try and make allowances for or understand Lauren. I am starting to think that this prog might be the worst vehicle Lauren could have used if she wanted to engender understanding and acceptance. It just takes up too much time and as a result other HMs - like Abz for instance lose airtime.