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Originally Posted by Conzors

I recently just moved into my own flat (which is rare for a 20 year old) and living on my own and its quite away from everyone i know (by this, i mean just under an hour on the bus, and a half hour car journey) but all my friends work full time and that.

I have never felt so lonely or on my own. I thought i'd like living out and having my own space when really all i want is to come home and everyone to annoy me - atleast id have been surrounded by people.

I like it for the most part, coming home - cooking what i want for dinner and that, but then the other part of me wonders if i've taken all these adult things on too soon in my life. Im a manager in a store which is already a big responsibility and then to have to live on your own and worry about bills and food (which leaves me broke) with the added stress of finding time and money to see your friends and family (which i hardly see) is just getting a bit too much!

Any advice on how to deal with this better?

What about you?
Anyone else thing they've grown up a bit fast and how have you dealt with it?
Anyone like living alone or not?

xxx

When I first moved out I used to love flying back to the nest once or twice a week for a mean tuna sandwich. You've only just started playing this game so you might as well continue on playing it and it'll get better I assure you.

Maybe a single flat wasn't the best option to be honest. Moving in with friends or even strangers is a great experience because your house is always a hive of activity and you're social circle will expand to accommodate their social circles.

Living totally by yourself obviously also means much higher rent and bills which is a bitch. You don't really get this when you share a space. Even when I was on the dole I always had a bit of cash to spare for booze after paying bills and rent and taking care of groceries [the fact that I live soley off tuna, bananas, carrots and universal love helps].

I've never understood how people like me could be broke. You're either happy broke because you've spent all your money taking care of your bills and boozing on - which aint real broke, it's just living a typical student/post student life - or you seriously need to tone down your lifestyle and stay off the high streets more.

Not talking about you here obviously but you say you're a manager. That sounds like money to me. I pull pints for a pittance and am vulnerable to saying "yes, please" to volunteer work. Although obviously where you are living is much more pricey than the mean steets I am king of so whatever.

Anyway don't roll back on things. Stay positive and don't do the whole "did I take all this on too young?" line. Nah, you didn't. Most people should move out and get a job when they're going through their twenties, to be honest.

Just take a vested interest in solo activities. Get into a few TV series or something to pass the hours. Enjoy your alone time. It'll make the socializing bits once or twice a week all the sweeter.

Then you keep smiling and give out love and take love in. Or something like that. Loves like breathing. Take it in, breath it out and feed off it as if it were a food. It kinda is.

I'm rambling. Be happy, dude.