[Jemal]

Whats the biggest regret you've had in your life?

Mine would be a toss up of should of done better when I was in secondary with my gcse's.
The other one would of been to still have pursued my footballing dream even after being released by Millwall.

What about you?
Open fire!

*No Marc or Novo allowed in this thread pls.. Thank you*

[Ammi]

..I know it's a cliché but I genuinely have no regrets, they're pointless/wasted energy...I've had bad things in my life as all of us have..and that has brought a mix of emotions/reactions etc and maybe changed a 'path' that I've taken which wasn't accepted and at the time might have been difficult and not what I wanted...but whatever path you take, it's just taking the positive and right things for yourself from that path and not regretting it as such but seeing it as just an 'aternative' ....


..maybe one regret, on reflection...I would liked to have seen my dad just before he died to tell him all the things that I'm sure he already knew anyway..so yeah..pointless/wasted emotions....

[lostalex]

probably starting smoking, cause i'm probably gonna get lung cancer and die a horrible death in my 50's.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by lostalex

probably starting smoking, cause i'm probably gonna get lung cancer and die a horrible death in my 50's.

..some things are beyond our control, Alex..your years of smoking can't be changed in any way but you could address the present and future of being a smoker...I know that it's not an easy thing to give up, but it's possible and achievable if you want it enough..you have to see yourself as a non smoker and determine to be that person and every benefit it brings you...

[Jemal]

What she said^

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Jemal

What she said^

..who you calling 'she'..you arrogant person....

[Jemal]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..who you calling 'she'..you arrogant person....

ohhhhh lorrrrddd

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Jemal

ohhhhh lorrrrddd

.....

[Black Dagger]

Taking high school for granted and failing my GCSE's due to the fact I was lazy and approval of the system. Everything happens for a reason though and I enjoy what I do now.

[Natalie.]

Probably not going to the doctors when I should have at 13, kind of over it now though because it's been nearly 10 years. Try not to regret/think about things

[Samm]

I can't think of any

[Z]

Like Ammi I try not to regret anything, you can waste years of your life wishing you had done something differently but it won't change the fact that you did things the way you did them. Some stuff you can rectify in the future (there will always be other opportunities) and other things are final (someone dying)... there's a quote by a man called Robert Brault that I love: "life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." I think that's great... just make peace with yourself and accept that some things are out of your hands.

The one thing in life that I spent a long time agonising over (which is why I try not to anymore) was the time I went on holiday with my ex and got dumped on the first day and had to spend a week together... that was hard. I often wish I'd never gone, but at the time I decided to go because I would regret not doing it (it was before I moved to Germany for a year) because I think I knew on some level that it was going to end at that point, but when it happened it was the biggest shock in the world... It was a bit of a catch 22 really, if I didn't go I'd have been dumped and been miserable and I thought that if I did go at least it would end in a nice way but it ended up being the most horrible thing in the world...

[Kizzy]

Thinking drinking to relieve grief/stress/fear was a great idea.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Zee

Like Ammi I try not to regret anything, you can waste years of your life wishing you had done something differently but it won't change the fact that you did things the way you did them. Some stuff you can rectify in the future (there will always be other opportunities) and other things are final (someone dying)... there's a quote by a man called Robert Brault that I love: "life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." I think that's great... just make peace with yourself and accept that some things are out of your hands.

The one thing in life that I spent a long time agonising over (which is why I try not to anymore) was the time I went on holiday with my ex and got dumped on the first day and had to spend a week together... that was hard. I often wish I'd never gone, but at the time I decided to go because I would regret not doing it (it was before I moved to Germany for a year) because I think I knew on some level that it was going to end at that point, but when it happened it was the biggest shock in the world... It was a bit of a catch 22 really, if I didn't go I'd have been dumped and been miserable and I thought that if I did go at least it would end in a nice way but it ended up being the most horrible thing in the world...

..but if you didn't go, then you would have spent so much time and maybe would still be doing so...thinking, if only I had gone..would that have kept the relationship..would we still be together and happy..I should have gone..?...but it didn't keep the relationship together, did it..it didn't make a difference to an inevitable, which is that person was never going to make you happy because the emotions to do that were not strong enough or the time wasn't right or whatever...those 'what ifs'/regrets are much more difficult to come to terms with and resign yourself to than what it's left you with..which is an absolute knowledge that there was nothing else you could do as it was out of your control...and all we can ever spend time looking at are things within our own control...and not other people's....so, no regrets, Zee..

[Stu]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

Thinking drinking to relieve grief/stress/fear was a great idea.

Some odd combination of this and the no regrets one.

[smeagol]

ithe problem with regrets is you dont know if you'd of done things differently or made a different choice whether it would of actually been better or not. most things people regret they probably made the right choice anyway.
so its best to not think about it.
the little things though are fine to regret though but you got to learn from those so as to not have to regret them in the future.

[GiRTh]

Probably not being more open with my parents about problems I was having. They always thought I was quite a secretive person - they still think this - but it was cuz I thought they would judge me due to mistakes that I made when I was younger - my parents are very religious you see.

Other than that, probably not moving jobs more often and chasing the money. I think I would have been more successful if I'd taken more chances.

[Gstar]

Wasting a year of my life in 6th form where I was extremely unhappy.