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Like Ammi I try not to regret anything, you can waste years of your life wishing you had done something differently but it won't change the fact that you did things the way you did them. Some stuff you can rectify in the future (there will always be other opportunities) and other things are final (someone dying)... there's a quote by a man called Robert Brault that I love: "life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." I think that's great... just make peace with yourself and accept that some things are out of your hands.

The one thing in life that I spent a long time agonising over (which is why I try not to anymore) was the time I went on holiday with my ex and got dumped on the first day and had to spend a week together... that was hard. I often wish I'd never gone, but at the time I decided to go because I would regret not doing it (it was before I moved to Germany for a year) because I think I knew on some level that it was going to end at that point, but when it happened it was the biggest shock in the world... It was a bit of a catch 22 really, if I didn't go I'd have been dumped and been miserable and I thought that if I did go at least it would end in a nice way but it ended up being the most horrible thing in the world...