[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Simple Minds

I've seen new members blamed for the apparent sundering of this forum. We will disagree I know that but it's just my opinion.

Yeah I've seen that too from a handful of members but that's always happened and always will, every year on here (and other forums) you always get people talking about how great it was in the good old days and how crap the new members are but I think for the most part, new members are welcomed and wanted on here

[Kyle]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Yeah I've seen that too from a handful of members but that's always happened and always will, every year on here (and other forums) you always get people talking about how great it was in the good old days and how crap the new members are but I think for the most part, new members are welcomed and wanted on here

Listen I don't know what this place was like a couple of years ago. Maybe it was better, maybe people like me are to blame for this forum going down the ****ter.

One thing I do know is that this forum needs a private sub forum, hidden away from non members or those that aren't involved where people can thrash out their differences. Things get deleted and tempers simmer and nobody knows what's going on. I don't know about you but if people genuinely thought I was a reason this forum was losing its flair I'd want to know about it,

[Jake.]

Tbh it's what you make of it, get involved in games, chat a bit more, talk about the things you like and chat with others with similar interests and you'll find it more worthy to log on everyday

[Glenn.]

I'm fed up with posts being deleted tbh

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Simple Minds

Listen I don't know what this place was like a couple of years ago. Maybe it was better, maybe people like me are to blame for this forum going down the ****ter.

One thing I do know is that this forum needs a private sub forum, hidden away from non members or those that aren't involved where people can thrash out their differences. Things get deleted and tempers simmer and nobody knows what's going on. I don't know about you but if people genuinely thought I was a reason this forum was losing its flair I'd want to know about it,

It's been discussed before but it's always decided that it wouldn't be a good idea and would end up spilling all over the forum or involving people who don't want to be involved or used as a place just to get away with insulting people

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Simple Minds

Listen I don't know what this place was like a couple of years ago. Maybe it was better, maybe people like me are to blame for this forum going down the ****ter.

One thing I do know is that this forum needs a private sub forum, hidden away from non members or those that aren't involved where people can thrash out their differences. Things get deleted and tempers simmer and nobody knows what's going on. I don't know about you but if people genuinely thought I was a reason this forum was losing its flair I'd want to know about it,

SM,You are great fun on this forum,it's nice to be able to chat and joke with people ,TIBB to me is pretty much the same as it's always been and I've been her since 2009,no way have you made it go down the ****ter as you call it now wheres my tenner?

[Kyle]

I understand why things are deleted or closed because sometimes it completely derails the thread and turns into a slagging match.

I just wish there was a better way than 'let's delete everything and sweep it all under the carpet' because nothing gets resolved and people think the other person is being protected.

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by Simple Minds

I understand why things are deleted or closed because sometimes it completely derails the thread and turns into a slagging match.

I just wish there was a better way than 'let's delete everything and sweep it all under the carpet' because nothing gets resolved and people think the other person is being protected.

Things can always be discussed further on pm. Sometimes it helps to resolve issues.

[Glenn.]

The post Jesus just made was a perfectly valid opinion. It's stuff like this that gets to me. It's like we can't have an opinion on something if it upsets the apple cart. We don't seem to be able to express our view for fear of upsetting someone.

That's the culture around here now.

Originally Posted by Simple Minds

I understand why things are deleted or closed because sometimes it completely derails the thread and turns into a slagging match.

I just wish there was a better way than 'let's delete everything and sweep it all under the carpet' because nothing gets resolved and people think the other person is being protected.

Really valid point.

Originally Posted by Jake.

Tbh it's what you make of it, get involved in games, chat a bit more, talk about the things you like and chat with others with similar interests and you'll find it more worthy to log on everyday

When jealous people try to tear down every game you appear in, then it's easier not to bother anymore - for everyones sake.

[Jemal]

Nothing really depressed me online tbh..
Only a couple members annoy me.. Wouldn't say i get depressed about anything on here.
But one thing that does get to me so much is how members who have been here for a while keep on saying how good TIBB was before.. And imo it just brings down the current crop of new members (who joined from June to now).
that gets to me a lot im not gonna lie. It pisses me off abit.

I also think that +1 -1 game is dire now.

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Glenn

The post Jesus just made was a perfectly valid opinion. It's stuff like this that gets to me. It's like we can't have an opinion on something if it upsets the apple cart. We don't seem to be able to express our view for fear of upsetting someone.

That's the culture around here now.

I agree,we are adults not kids(well most of us)It's frustrating being censored all the time,but I suppose it's hard to strike a happy medium.

[Kyle]

Originally Posted by Jesus.

Really valid point.

What about a social group? Open to anyone who chooses to join and a few rules like no personal insults, digs at personal life or what have you and it does not leave the group.

It's away from the forum.

Originally Posted by Jemal

Nothing really depressed me online tbh..
Only a couple members annoy me.. Wouldn't say i get depressed about anything on here.
But one thing that does get to me so much is how members who have been here for a while keep on saying how good TIBB was before.. And imo it just brings down the current crop of new members (who joined from June to now).
that gets to me a lot im not gonna lie. It pisses me off abit.

I also think that +1 -1 game is dire now.

I wouldn't take personally. Everyone who's a member will have times they enjoy more and times they enjoy less. It's more to do with all people around, and not just new members.

[AnnieK]

My OH is on a forum where pretty much anything goes....its not always pretty or nice but they seem to vent and then move on much more than on here at times. I don't think anyone wants all out war but its frustrating when, as adults, we are censored and made to feel like naughty school kids at times. (Well not me being the angel that I am obviously)...

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by Simple Minds

Listen I don't know what this place was like a couple of years ago. Maybe it was better, maybe people like me are to blame for this forum going down the ****ter.

One thing I do know is that this forum needs a private sub forum, hidden away from non members or those that aren't involved where people can thrash out their differences. Things get deleted and tempers simmer and nobody knows what's going on. I don't know about you but if people genuinely thought I was a reason this forum was losing its flair I'd want to know about it,

Originally Posted by Simple Minds

What about a social group? Open to anyone who chooses to join and a few rules like no personal insults, digs at personal life or what have you and it does not leave the group.

It's away from the forum.

It's pretty pointless - Social groups are terrible things anyway in my book. I've joined a couple, but then think what's the point and leave them. I don't like how messy they make my profile look either!!

When people are just willing to lie and spew out anything, then they avoid having to face their own actions anyway, because justification is better than reflection.

Anyone who knows me, will say I'm the first person to raise my hand and apologise when I know I'm wrong, but that doesn't work with everyone, and one-sided discussions about stuff is pretty meaningless.

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by anniek76

My OH is on a forum where pretty much anything goes....its not always pretty or nice but they seem to vent and then move on much more than on here at times. I don't think anyone wants all out war but its frustrating when, as adults, we are censored and made to feel like naughty school kids at times. (Well not me being the angel that I am obviously)...

In an adult forum ,that is how it should be ,I find it insulting when scraps of kids say the most revolting things and nothing is done if they are part of the golden gang, I would love a place where I could tell these people exactly what I think ,it should be mod free

[Kyle]

The only other way I can think of is where the posts are left for all to see but people accordingly punished for what they have said.

Obviously remove it if it's racist or hugely personal or inciting violence.

It's annoying when things are removed and people are like 'what did he say? What did she do?'

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by Simple Minds

The only other way I can think of is where the posts are left for all to see but people accordingly punished for what they have said.

Obviously remove it if it's racist or hugely personal or inciting violence.

It's annoying when things are removed and people are like 'what did he say? What did she do?'

If it helps, i think you're a great member. You've grown on me a lot.

[Kyle]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

If it helps, i think you're a great member. You've grown on me a lot.

Thanks V

[smeagol]

i think people take the net too seriously myself.
The net is the matrix in reality none of anything we say really matters that much anyway.

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by smeagol

i think people take the net too seriously myself.
The net is the matrix in reality none of anything we say really matters that much anyway.

True, i suppose. It's just a bit of fun, isn't it? At least that's the way i see it.

[Kyle]

I don't know if this means much but what I've noticed is that members who previously quite often have been at loggerheads with each other are actually coming together to advocate a more open door policy.

It's not like it's the more placid members who likely don't get embroiled in disagreements that are for it, it's the people that are likely to be affected by it.

I think that says something myself although others may disagree of course.