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Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah, like you said, I think Anna Nicole Smith and J Howard Marshall is an extreme example though...and I guess like anything else, it's just a personal preference and no different from..do you prefer blonde/brunette...tall people/shorter people etc..I can't think of any examples lol...some people are naturally attracted to older people or younger people..same age people etc as a general thing but then, they may meet someone who doesn't fit into that and it could be an attraction much stronger than anything else they have felt and the person they want to be with...and I guess for them to not pursue that wouldn't make sense in that they wouldn't think...oh, I usually like blondes and you're not blonde, so go away...it's interesting what you said though, that you wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life mourning someone, if you were left without them...but if you met someone and they were much older and you denied/walked away from that because of their age..(if they were much older..)..would you not then be spending your life mourning them because you'd denied someone who could have made you happy..?..but I guess the difference would be that you would have also denied being left with beautiful memories of them as well, which in the end is all any of us have and something that I just would never ever want to be without....

I'm quite pragmatic when it comes to dating though, like I could have dated someone when I lived in Germany who was interested but I said no because I knew that it would have to end when I moved back home again so I didn't get into it in the first place. I wouldn't mourn something I never had in the first place - if I really liked someone but I felt that, practically, it wouldn't work... I would always walk away from that situation. I wouldn't ever want to throw myself into a situation that I know would only end in heartbreak for me.