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Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

No ones answered my question ,IF the experts you choose to dismiss ,had said he was an angel ,and 100% genuine,not playing a nasty game ,would you have opened a thread calling them charlatans ,simple yes or no answer will surfice

To an extent, no-one is perfect, and none of us are genuine, because we are made up of many complex layers formed over time. There's a book called "Games People Play" about transactional analysis. It explores social interactions, and outlines the ways in which people will adopt particular roles as a result of external/internal stimuli or circumstances. e.g. Linda adopting her parental role in the house. In the eyes of a psychologist, and in reality, we all play these "games", we all manipulate, we all conceal. Jim in those respects is no different from anyone else.

When a psychologist refers to someone as being manipulative, it means nothing unless he/she explains in what way the person is being manipulative, because in psychobabble, most people manipulate others in order to achieve their goals, from children who want a cuddle to adults who want the last of the wine. A lot of the time, this is not even a conscious thing.

We all conceal our weaknesses because exposing them would make us vulnerable, and we all conceal our faults because as humans we are dependent on others, and therefore must be accepted by the social group.