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Originally Posted by Lostie!
I'd love for her to stand up for herself more, but it's not as simple as that. If you don't have high confidence, or if you're feeling intimidated because of the situation, it's not so easy to fight back. That doesn't mean she's fair game or deserves it.
And even confident people who do fight back can be bullied. I highly doubt it would suddenly stop just because she argues back.
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Good post.
If anything it would probably make it worse if she argued back. It would only give them more ammo and they would use her retalliation as an excuse to justify their behaviour towards her.
Plus if she argued back, it would make it look like a 50/50 argument which it isn't. Right now it's 100% from them. Her quietness is making it very obvious who the aggressors are.
In that sense, she is dealing with it perfectly by not falling into their trap. Retalliation is EXACTLY what they want her to do.
It's still not pleasant to watch though. Put yourself in Jale's shoes and it's a horrible place to be, whether you call it bullying or not.
Ash,
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