[MarcusMel]

One of the biggest problems about this forum and what people write is that they only see and hear what conforms to their knowledge and belief system. Reframing a viewpoint requires the ability to see the outside view looking in. Not an easy thing to do for people who are systematic or non-empathetic.

I like the phrase: People believe what they fear to be true or what they want to be true.

Why is Helen's former job despised? Could it be the fear that it is true for all young women one way or another, rather than seeing 'the job' as a way of confirming two people of unity of relationship, purpose and emotional satisfaction?

There was in 28th June BBOTPsych a very interesting clip of Helen at first saying the type of person she imagined herself to be followed by examples of her not being that person. From the outside empathetic people understand that she behaves opposite to how she would like to be because she feels as if the world is spitting on her and is fighting to feel internal contentment with herself.

Her constant feeling of inadequacy is her weakness unless something in BB turns this around then the public are probably always going to dislike (hate!) her. One of the biggest disadvantages she has at the moment are the available role models.

IF she gets to know actor Chris and starts the deep conversation talk then there is some hope that she will learn some useful coping patterns.