[Liam-]

Originally Posted by Loukas

If he was doing it before you were together and he started a relationship with you and didn't tell you he was a porn star and he kept that secret from you, what else could he be keeping secret from you? When i go into a relationship i put all my cards on the table and i'm completely honest and i'd expect my partner to so the same. 'It's his job' - fair enough but if he kept it a secret, it's a problem.

Yeah i get what you're saying.. but i just don't see the big issue with it, i personally think it's a bit of a cop out for her to dump him, considering the article says that they were extremely happy together.. If i loved someone and found out that they had been doing a bit of porn to earn some money before we got together, i wouldn't dump them for it, I'd probably come up with a few rules and stipulations and have a few cross words about the secretiveness of it, but no way would it make me break up with him.

[Loukas]

Originally Posted by LiamPRW

Yeah i get what you're saying.. but i just don't see the big issue with it, i personally think it's a bit of a cop out for her to dump him, considering the article says that they were extremely happy together.. If i loved someone and found out that they had been doing a bit of porn to earn some money before we got together, i wouldn't dump them for it, I'd probably come up with a few rules and stipulations and have a few cross words about the secretiveness of it, but no way would it make me break up with him.

thats a pretty big secret to have from a partner, being a porn star is too much for some people to handle. My cousin is dated a porn star for a couple years but she knew where he was going, who he was sleeping with and exactly what he was doing in the scene he's doing as they discuss it - Like a healthy couple. A secret is a secret - big or small. If you keep something, anything, from a partner it could be a problem.

Take Lorna for example, she's a high profile soap star that never makes the headlines but the one time she does it's because of a secret that her boyfriend kept from her, that caused nationwide embarrassment for her. If i was her i would have dumped her faster than one can say Eastenders.

[Liam-]

Originally Posted by Loukas

thats a pretty big secret to have from a partner, being a porn star is too much for some people to handle. My cousin is dated a porn star for a couple years but she knew where he was going, who he was sleeping with and exactly what he was doing in the scene he's doing as they discuss it - Like a healthy couple. A secret is a secret - big or small. If you keep something, anything, from a partner it could be a problem.

Take Lorna for example, she's a high profile soap star that never makes the headlines but the one time she does it's because of a secret that her boyfriend kept from her, that caused nationwide embarrassment for her. If i was her i would have dumped her faster than one can say Eastenders.

It's not his problem that she got embarrassed, if she can't handle that fair enough, but what she gets embarrassed about is not his fault

I guess we all have different outlooks on life, i wouldn't care if i was dating someone who was doing porn, the only issue I'd have would be the lying, but it wouldn't make me break up with them.

And i also said in the open relationship thread that i couldn't be in one.. but in my eyes, your partner doing a bit of porn here and there is just a job, not an implement in a relationship status, If i knew what he was doing and who he was doing it with during a 'scene' i wouldn't have an issue, because i know that he would be coming home to me every night.

And tbh, a part of me would find it a bit hot knowing that people found my boyfriend so hot that they watched his porn videos