[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Beyonsleigh

Omg, she sounds sf annoying.

My step-nan was a gold digger, she split up my nan and granddad, and caused my nan's stroke which has effectively ruined her life considering she's only 52 (i think) but is not eligable to work but is given small benefits which she can barely survive on, and she had 2 kids with my granddad, made his company go bust, bled him dry and then one day told him she was moving to Ireland with my auntie and uncle (but one's the same age as me, the other is 1 year younger but this was in like 2009, so she left him after 5 years of marriage, they'd been having an affair since the year before i was born, and in that time she made him go from owning a company with 3 different stores whatever, to having literally no money and having to buy from the bargain bins in the co-op, ****ing bitch)

that's awful. I hate people like that... very much reminds me of my dads gf

Originally Posted by Christmarsh.

Sounds like hell.

I have a step parent and we NEVER got on for years and years but now I'm older we get on a lot better these days.

lol, well heres hoping...

Originally Posted by ~HO~HO~HO~

Eurgh she sounds like a bit of a head buster Caitlin. You should tell her firmly but nicely that you would prefer if stopped bringing up your dads finances with you and your siblings that you feel that's private business of your dads and if he felt the need to discuss it with you then he would.

I don't have any step family at all but a lot of my friends did when we were growing up and they mostly seemed to have problems with them.

everything i ever say gets twisted though... its very very complicated. i'll speak to my aunt tonight (well, my dads aunt) and see what she thinks. she lives in america, but is very level headed and wont take sides. i think deep down she knows exactly what my dads gf is. she justs wants my dad to be happy

Originally Posted by Smithy

She sounds awful caitlin, if i were you i'd talk to your dad about it, and see if he is actually having problems with money, or if she's just saying it/exacerbating the situation to make you feel bad

oh, i know hes having problems with money. he has to pay for two seperate houses plus buy all of her ****... but shes definitely exaggerating.

Originally Posted by ChristMASS EFFECT

You use American currency values when you refer to her comments, is she from the States this new gf of his?

im american, lol

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I agree with Josy, Caitlin..it isn't really up to your step-mum to discuss your dad's finances with you..maybe tell her that you don't feel comfortable talking about it unless your dad himself decides to talk to you...it's quite an odd thing for her to do really...

i think I will do... she has nothing to do with his money, but shes saying she's 'in charge of his finances' so that she knows whats going on. ugh


Thanks everyone for the advice! I really appreciate it.

It just annoys me cause my sister was speaking about going to Uni next year (at my birthday meal last week) and as soon as my sister mentioned it, she was like 'oh you do know your dad cant pay for it. he's $75,000 in debt'

and i wanted to punch her