i spoke to a family member tonight who has always always been a 'there are two sides to every story' person. and although ive always known she trusts me, she finally told me tonight (when i explained everything) that she's known exactly what my dads gf was the whole time, but wants my dad to be happy.
my aunt gave me brilliant advice and it was so relieving to hear that someone else knows what this horrid bitch is. and to know that the horrid bitch has been doing the same to my aunt... (well, thats not nice to hear, but I mean I'm glad to find out that someone else knows how i feel)
feeling a lot happier now... thanks everyone for the brill advice over the past few days