[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

It sounds like a pretty sad story though to me. Who would really want to have a child at 15, when you're just a child yourself? Sounds to me that no matter how much free things she got, she's actually missed out on having a proper life herself

I agree Niamh, but we have to remember that we tend to view others and their actions by our standards. None of her family have ever worked and the die was cast really from an early age. She sees no disadvantage or loss in the life she has, because it's unfortunately the way she was raised.

If you and your partner had adopted her at say, 3 years old, her life choices and life would probably have turned out completely different.

As it is - in my opinion - she is happy and definitely thinks she has 'one up' on the system and the world.

My son has worked part-time, but as many hours as he could, all the way through school and university, and still is, for minimum wage, having gained his law degree and saddled himself with £30,000 of loans.