[Joyce M Short]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Lying and pretending to be someone you're not isn't moral, I wouldn't be ok with it, it's a ****ty thing to do... But would I make it illegal or brand the person who did it as a rapist?? Errrr let me think. No. That would be an absolutely behemoth overreaction. People lie. If we start locking them up for it the world will be pretty empty.

Wife: "I'm leaving you... I'm not happy. I've fallen out of love with you."
Husband: "but we had sex last night... And you said you loved me!"
Wife: "I'm sorry, I lied. I don't love you."
Husband: "you lied?? Rape! False pretences! I have been violated, you beast, off to jail with you!"

Toy Soldier_

You're being ridiculous. People have a right to change their mind. The person she had sex with was her husband, and she knew it was her husband. He did not conduct "false personation" to have sex with her.

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Joyce M Short

Toy Soldier_

You're being ridiculous. People have a right to change their mind. The person she had sex with was her husband, and she knew it was her husband. He did not conduct "false personation" to have sex with her.

I am not being ridiculous at all - please give me valid reasoning for why it is more emotionally damaging to pretend to be in a high paying job in order to have sex with someone than it is to pretend to love someone in order to have sex with them?

Not about changing their mind ; in this hypothetical scenario, the partner who was planning to leave had known for months that they no longer loved their partner and had been planning to tell them for weeks. But when wanting sex they would tell their partner; "I love you" in order to encourage them into sexual activity.

How is that any different?

Here's another flipped example: what if a woman (as many women do) was to lie about her age? She tells some guy in a club that she's 35 and he then has sex with her, he then later finds out that she's 41,and this guy has sworn that he'll never have sex with anyone over the age of 40.

She has now raped him, correct?

I mean, not having sex with anyone over 40 would be a ridiculous stance is he was physically attracted to her anyway, but no more ridiculous than only having sex with "rich people".

But your stance is - and seriously now - that this woman who was embarrassed about her age, or this man who was embarrassed about his income, should be charged with a sexual assault? It's ****ing madness. If you choose to sleep with people you don't know (consensually!) then you accept that you don't know them.