[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by lostalex

that's very fair. you get to decide what is right for you, and you have a right to expect your partner to be honest with you too. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with monogamy. i'm glad you and your husband are on the same page

unfortunately, some men, and some women, are not so happy in their relationships. and feel like they can't be honest.

i think everyone should just feel conformable being honest, but we do live in a society that makes people feel like they have to lie.

you will admit that our society does pressure people into feeling like they HAVE to be monogamous, right?

Yeah I agree, as you rightly point out, it's actually honesty between couples that's the bigger issue here. Yes society does push towards monogamy and maybe open relationships should not be frowned upon so much. As I've said before, i don't have any issues with people wanting open relationships as long as they're both on the same page and again that comes back to honesty. Unfortunately though i think alot of these people who cheat don't really want open relationships, they want to be able to sleep around themselves but maybe wouldn't be as open to their partner doing it and maybe that's why they sneak around instead of discussing it