[Ashsleigh]

Originally Posted by kirklancaster

If your 'friend' is really your friend, and if you are genuinely attracted to the other party, and he/she is genuinely attracted to you, then where's the problem? Your friend should understand. If you 'cried off' because of your friend and the other party does not fancy them, then they still won't go with your friend anyway, and everyone loses out.

I think there's two types of people in this situation.

1. This person will think that they'd be doing a good deed by shunning the guy. It gives them the feeling that they've done something good and beneficial by sparing their friends feelings. They might also feel that they will be rewarded by their friend for this deed.

2. This person finds it difficult to resist temptation/pass opportunities. They're more likely to feel regret for shunning the guy, in favour of their friend's trust.

I do agree, that the guy, I suppose, "picked" one girl over the other, so the other friend has to move on either way.