[DemolitionRed]

I agree with everything you said Ammi.

Its very difficult to see positives when you're going through emotional turmoil, but those of us who can look back, often see the positives. For me that positive is, my ex is a great guy who's fun to be around but he doesn't make a good partner because he finds it difficult to miss out on an opportunity with other females. I learnt that once trust is gone it can never return, at least not for me and it taught me that regardless of my emotions, I do have the ability to walk away and stay away when I have to.

All too often we hear people speaking about their ex as though they were the devils spawn. When splits happen, hatred and bitterness often follow (I appreciate some people have good reason). Some friends of ours split up a couple of years ago. We see a lot more of her than we do of him because every time we see him, he tries to turn us against her. He's succeeded in turning a number of friends against her and that's because he hasn't been able to move on with his life.