[Shaun]

Obviously depends on how close you are to certain family members...

I wasn't terribly close to my older brother or father but at the same time obviously have tonnes of memories of them, but on the other hand I respected my aunt as being sort-of the centre of our family, the most successful businesswoman of it as well and someone I enjoyed spending time around more, so I think I was upset by her passing more even though it was a gradual loss (cancer).

Whether or not their deaths are sudden I would imagine plays the biggest part in dealing with grief. My brother/dad were pretty much out of nowhere - my brother I knew was dying within a fortnight of it happening and my dad I just had no idea even though I saw him in hospital the day before it happened. So shock and confusion were major obstructions in dealing with that grief. Not entirely sure I have really.

I might just be odd though, because I find it easier to cry over dead celebrities I've loved (Amy Winehouse, David Bowie, Robin Williams, Philip Seymour Hoffman, etc.) than I do to "weep" over dead loved ones, guess it's because I see myself as having to be strong for other family members remaining.

TL: DR version: no I don't have a hierarchy