[thesheriff443]

Do you visit relatives graves, if so how often?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Yes, i visited my great great grandfather, great grandfather, grandfather and father on Sunday as it goes and put some flowers on them all. Luckily they are all in 2 adjacent graveyards.

[Cal.]

Occasionally yes.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Last night at an auction there was a box with a vintage real skeleton in it and it was weird holding this mans skull in my hand to think he was once a human with thoughts and a life, he still had a few teeth attached. It made 175 quid

[Shaun]

Sometimes go with my mother for anniversaries/birthdays etc but I don't think I'd go of my own accord, don't really feel comfortable doing it.

[Crimson Dynamo]

I find graveyards fascinating

[_Tom_]

No, most of my relatives were cremated.

[Cherie]

Yes

[Benjamin]

Not been to my fathers and brothers' in a while, and now I'm in New Zealand it'll be longer. I will visit them on trips back to England though.

[Mokka]

No

I lately think i should, but i haven't been to the farm in so many years where my father's parents are.... and my maternal grandmother's grave is here on the outskirts of the city... but i just never think on a day off that I should be going to it. I guess it just isn't a tradition my family have ... i am thinking it is because we only have had one generation pass in North America

[hijaxers]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Do you visit relatives graves, if so how often?

Mostly mine have been burnt

[caprimint]

No...it's pointless unless you are religious.

[Brother Leon]

Yeah. Along with a couple Friends that I miss dearly.

[Jessica.]

I used to visit my father's grave around two or three times a year as a child but I haven't in about 8 years at this stage. My grandfather (his dad) ended up being buried with him against my mother's and siblings will, I wasn't close to that man so it just feels spoiled and not special now.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by caprimint

No...it's pointless unless you are religious.

LT?


Not necessarily, it can be out of respect for those that are gone as well

[Tom4784]

No, I don't see the point as the person is gone and I don't find comfort in visiting the holes where their ashes are buried. I don't need to visit a grave to show my respects.

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by Cherie

LT?


Not necessarily, it can be out of respect for those that are gone as well

But why do you have to go to a grave to show respect?

They are never going to know whether you visit it or not. It's all in the mind if you feel a 'connection' or whatever.

[T*]

Yes every time it's his Birthday/Death anniversary
It's 2 days out your year to show your respect and so I do it

[T*]

Originally Posted by caprimint

But why do you have to go to a grave to show respect?

They are never going to know whether you visit it or not. It's all in the mind if you feel a 'connection' or whatever.

Let's not do this whole thing

[kirklancaster]

No. I am a (unorthodox) Christian, so to me, they are no longer there, only what remains of their physical bodies. I get the respect aspect and laying of flowers etc, and that is fine by me because I would never try to impose my beliefs on anyone else or criticise something as highly personal as someone else's customs concerning passed relatives, but I actually 'talk' to my passed relatives - and friends - virtually daily and they are just as often in my thoughts.

[T*]

Originally Posted by caprimint

No...it's pointless unless you are religious.

Yet I'm not religious

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by T*

Yet I'm not religious

Meh. I don't see how it has any real meaning if you're not.

Most likely something you've been brought up to do just because your family do.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by caprimint

No...it's pointless unless you are religious.

Incorrect, it is life affirming to recognise what has come before you, its nothing to do with religion, its about being alive

[Marsh.]

It's just a place to go with a pretty headstone in their memory. Doesn't have to have any religious connotations. For some people it's just a nice little tribute/memorial for them.

[Crimson Dynamo]

In Italy the headstones have photos on of the person, its a lovely idea