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Originally Posted by Vicky.

C tbh. If you haven't spoken for that long then you aren't exactly close. I assume she is close to her daughter as you mention possibly upsetting her. I would stay well away, and maybe go sign the memorial book or something another day. Are you considering going to ease your guilt over not seeing her for so long, or for other reasons? The only reason I can think of is the guilt thing (sorry if I am wrong) so basically you are going to make yourself feel better...if that makes sense.

Makes perfect sense Vicky.
I had no intention of going, we hadn't spoken since the day our father died 8 years ago. Just want to see it from different angles as my son disagrees with me, mind you he doesn't know what the fallout was about.
I have kept up with her life through my other sister and she was very helpful getting some ' medication' for my sister-in-law that also has terminal cancer.
I don't actually feel any guilt, maybe some regret that we couldn't sort our differences out but that's life I suppose.