[Josy]

Originally Posted by Withano

I don't even really understand how a date without an app would work really. Like how would you know that you liked each other pre-date? Or would you go to the date to find out if you like each other? That doesn't seem too time-efficient.

Well thats where apps ruin the dating thing IMO, people used to go out to clubs pubs, social gatherings etc make eye contact, feel an attraction to someone, and take it from there, there was no rush but these days its too easy to not put any effort in because there will always be someone else when you swipe left.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Well thats where apps ruin the dating thing IMO, people used to go out to clubs pubs, social gatherings etc make eye contact, feel an attraction to someone, and take it from there, there was no rush but these days its too easy to not put any effort in because there will always be someone else when you swipe left.

Just as there is already a thousand other people in the bar. How is it any different?

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Josy

Well thats where apps ruin the dating thing IMO, people used to go out to clubs pubs, social gatherings etc make eye contact, feel an attraction to someone, and take it from there, there was no rush but these days its too easy to not put any effort in because there will always be someone else when you swipe left.

Oh.. but then I feel like there must have been a swap or a shift in priorities.

I would be distraught if a friend left my side at a club or a pub because his eyes met with some bloody stranger.. I feel like to have old-style dating, you would have to give up new-style socialising with friends?

I'm much more content with the idea of a friend swiping left and right at home and then coming to enjoy a night out with friends, than the idea of someone doing a 2-birds-1-stone type thing and trying to chat up new gash in between dancing terribly to music we hate, and smoking delicious cigarettes.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Withano

Oh.. but then I feel like there must have been a swap or a shift in priorities.

I would be distraught if a friend left my side at a club or a pub because his eyes met with some bloody stranger.. I feel like to have old-style dating, you would have to give up new-style socialising with friends?

I'm much more content with the idea of a friend swiping left and right at home and then coming to enjoy a night out with friends, than the idea of someone doing a 2-birds-1-stone type thing and trying to chat up new gash in between dancing terribly to music we hate, and smoking delicious cigarettes.

So on nights out you only speak to and socialise with those you were out with to start with? Genuinely curious..

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Josy

So on nights out you only speak to and socialise with those you were out with to start with? Genuinely curious..

Probably about 75-85% of the time yeah. There might be an old friend to bump in to, a friends old friend, or a stranger who has a lighter for my delicious cigarettes.

I dont think I've ever been ditched by a friend for a stranger that a friend has found attractive from a distance in a bar. That sounds heartbreaking! I don't think I could ever do that to someone I planned a night out with either! Seems cruel almost to ask them to go out for drinks and ditch them as soon as a stranger gives you a wink.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Withano

Probably about 75-85% of the time yeah. There might be an old friend to bump in to, a friends old friend, or a stranger who has a lighter for my delicious cigarettes.

I dont think I've ever been ditched by a friend for a stranger that a friend has found attractive from a distance in a bar. That sounds heartbreaking! I don't think I could ever do that to someone I planned a night out with either! Seems cruel almost to ask them to go out for drinks and ditch them as soon as a stranger gives you a wink.

Fair enough lol

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Withano

Oh.. but then I feel like there must have been a swap or a shift in priorities.

I would be distraught if a friend left my side at a club or a pub because his eyes met with some bloody stranger.. I feel like to have old-style dating, you would have to give up new-style socialising with friends?

I'm much more content with the idea of a friend swiping left and right at home and then coming to enjoy a night out with friends, than the idea of someone doing a 2-birds-1-stone type thing and trying to chat up new gash in between dancing terribly to music we hate, and smoking delicious cigarettes.

Tbh, that's another positive. At least with the apps you know when you meet up (on the proviso they are who they say they are) you at least already know you will have something in common with the person and therefore if all else fails it won't be a 100% disaster.

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Tbh, that's another positive. At least with the apps you know when you meet up (on the proviso they are who they say they are) you at least already know you will have something in common with the person and therefore if all else fails it won't be a 100% disaster.

Yeh, thats the main positive for me. I haven't used them for a year and a half, and I'm not planning on using one any time soon. But I'd imagine a date would be far more interesting if you knew two or three shared interests beforehand.