[Beso]

Originally Posted by Rob!

I mean the clique thing, which would imply that I am unwelcoming and part of a 'gang.' The number of people who post in the chat thread alone seems to be too large to be considered a clique in my view.

To be fair you have just said there are a lot of tools on tbe forum...thats you being welcoming is it?

[jaxie]

The forum is a bit like bumper cars sometimes but don't be put off Sue, we aren't all 20 and I'm sure lots of people would love to hear your views regardless of their age.

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by Brillopad

What a distasteful sig to suggest anyone who feels uncomfortable or draws attention to the cliques we all know exist are ‘misfits’. Proves the threads point I think.

It's a TV show

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by parmnion

To be fair you have just said there are a lot of tools on tbe forum...thats you being welcoming is it?

Welcoming to who? The people who act like tools?

[Greg!]

Originally Posted by Glenn.

Tbh I’ve tried to disassociate myself as much as I can from TiBB over the last few months.

Why are you posting then hon.

Originally Posted by Macie Lightfoot

I don't feel part of ~the in crowd~ bc I don't post in the chat threads and I'm not British so I can't talk about A-levels or Tesco or whatever else

This made me cackle

Originally Posted by Jason.

I feel suddenly groups have formed....And that's happened after Marsh has come in

Loooooool

[Greg!]

I think it's natural both in real life and on a forum that there are certain people who will get on better with some people than others. Despite that, (mostly) everyone on here are lovely welcoming friendly gals!

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Tbh, clique is usually just a word that's thrown about by people who don't like certain members, when they can't think of anything more relevant to say.

Charming...I don't dislike many members, and the ones I do dislike are not part of the 'chat thread'

I still think its a bit cliquey though, and you even said yourself that you were ignored to start with, which kind of proves my point

As I said earlier, cliquey is not such a bad thing, and I use that word because theres no other words to describe what I mean tbh...but even in real life, friendship groups tend to stick together and its a bit of a task to integrate yourself into them if you want to. Its perfectly natural that people with similar interests and that would gravitate towards each other...why pointing out this is a bad and horrible thing, I don't bloody know

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

That's the difference for me though, a clique IS deliberate and there's the difference.

You're right, it's natural for people to gravitate towards the people they already know/are familiar with or like and it'll take time for anyone new to bed in. Especially all in a large group together. But that's not cliquey.

A clique implies a "Mean Girls"esque club where people are purposely excluded or pushed out. That happens extremely rarely IMO.

Just seen this before I replied, not to me it doesn;t :S

Clique just means a friendship group that quite hard to...dare I say...penetrate

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Just seen this before I replied, not to me it doesn;t :S

Clique just means a friendship group that quite hard to...dare I say...penetrate

I meant the Mean Girls analogy too - because the people who USUALLY use the 'clique' term, normally mean it as an insult.

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

a friendship group that quite hard to...dare I say...penetrate

I feel quite confident in saying that there are none of those on Tibb.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I feel quite confident in saying that there are none of those on Tibb.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Just seen this before I replied, not to me it doesn;t :S

Clique just means a friendship group that quite hard to...dare I say...penetrate

But the definition of the word is a group of friends who do not allow newbies in easily.

That's a deliberate action.

Friendship groups in general will not be easy to penetrate. Purposely making it difficult or showing disregard for people outside of that group is more of a deliberate action and therefore a clique.

[Vicky.]

Hmm maybe. I don't really view 'clique' as being a really bad thing. Maybe how I use the word is very wrong

I used to just laugh at people who accused me of being part of a clique. I never got all worked up about it

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Hmm maybe. I don't really view 'clique' as being a really bad thing. Maybe how I use the word is very wrong

I used to just laugh at people who accused me of being part of a clique. I never got all worked up about it

Laughed about it with all of your cliquey friends

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Laughed about it with all of your cliquey friends

Indeed. There was even an entire thread set up where those who were not in the clique and hated cliques could be all together (in a clique)

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Hmm maybe. I don't really view 'clique' as being a really bad thing. Maybe how I use the word is very wrong

I used to just laugh at people who accused me of being part of a clique. I never got all worked up about it

I think movies like mean girls have altered it perhaps? It's definitely a negative and used as an insult nowadays.

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Welcoming to who? The people who act like tools?

Welcoming to newbies really.

Reading some of your posts in this thread, wouldnt enspire me to want to continue visiting the place.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Welcoming to newbies really.

Reading some of your posts in this thread, wouldnt enspire me to want to continue visiting the place.

He didn't call newbies tools.

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Welcoming to newbies really.

Reading some of your posts in this thread, wouldnt enspire me to want to continue visiting the place.

I wasn't referring to newbies, as was quite obvious to anybody else, so we'll just place you in the tool drawer shall we?

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

He didn't call newbies tools.

How do you know? He wasnt very specific!

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Rob!

I wasn't referring to newbies, as was quite obvious to anybody else, so we'll just place you in the tool drawer shall we?

Unpunished posts like this and the original one just proves there is a clique involving certain users and certain mods.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

How do you know? He wasnt very specific!

The same reason I know day from night.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Unpunished posts like this and the original one just proves there is a clique involving certain users and certain mods.

If you think Rob is in a clique that is somehow above the mods and the rules they enforce then I think the entire forum would collectively become a clique and together they laugh at the suggestion.

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

If you think Rob is in a clique that is somehow above the mods and the rules they enforce then I think the entire forum would collectively become a clique and together they laugh at the suggestion.

Alll tools minus one tool.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Alll tools minus one tool.

That's naughty. You just wait until Josy logs on.