[user104658]

Originally Posted by Withano

I mean, love can be explained by a chemical reaction in the brain that doesnt exist in other animals.

What you're talking about here is "initial attraction", and exactly what I'm talking about, essentially lust confused with love or more colloquially, "a crush", or infatuation. It's a completely different thing to love... and occurs long before a person actually knows anywhere near enough about the other individual to truly declare love. Again, though, lots of social confusion there, lots of people declaring that they "love" people they barely know enough to say that they even like them on any philosophical level.

Actual love is a very complex and abstract psychology.

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Actual love is a very complex and abstract psychology.

Debateably its just phenylethylamine and dopamine reacting to one another, like it does when you eat bar of chocolate, and like it would if you met a third of forth relationship interest. Its a good feeling which other animals dont experience.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Withano

Debateably its just phenylethylamine and dopamine reacting to one another, like it does when you eat bar of chocolate, and like it would if you met a third of forth relationship interest. Its a good feeling which other animals dont experience.

That's lust you're talking about again

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

That's lust you're talking about again

No thats the chemical reaction for what we know as love, actually just googled 'norepinephrine' is in the mix too.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Withano

No thats the chemical reaction for what we know as love, actually just googled 'norepinephrine' is in the mix too.

This is the fight or flight hormone? news flash you don't feel like that all the time, this is lust, love doesn't feel like that all the time. You are mistaken, when you google it they may be using the word love but they're talking about lust or initial attraction :

The first attraction causes us to produce more PEA, which results in those dizzying feelings associated with romantic love

http://asdn.net/asdn/chemistry/chemistry_of_love.php

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Withano

No thats the chemical reaction for what we know as love, actually just googled 'norepinephrine' is in the mix too.

It's the chemical reaction for what has become confused as being love (self serving feel-good infatuation) in a wider society that - like I said from my very first post - readily confuses this with the completely different, entirely philosophical concept of actual human love.

It might sound twee, but I suppose you have to have experienced both to understand the difference. 10 years ago there were girls in my past that I would have sworn blue in the face that I had "loved". I now understand that what I felt towards them was the chemical response that you are describing and it is not love... nor, frankly, anything even close to resembling it.

Like Niamh, I do genuinely hope that you'll get to know the difference at some point .