[pontyboi]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I said nothing at all about him at all He sat in the priority seat bit on the bus while she was in her pram so he was opposite her and she literally pointed right at him and spoke pretty loudly. I did apologize but thats when he said all was fine and started talking to her about boys liking wearing makeup and such. I assume from what he said that he is the right pronoun for him though...as surely he wouldn't be talking bout himself as a boy who likes to wear makeup if he was trans. I am not sure though as as I said, still not sure if he was trans, just feminine or a drag queen Have to admit though, glad he was on about challenging stereotypes, rather than trying to tell her he has a female brain or something...not sure how I would have handled that :S So I guess I was lucky in that respect

You arnt getting what im saying...even now you're calling that person he and him and probably don't even know you're doing it. Not your fault and you shouldn't be made to feel bad about it either it's just how you feel instinctively about trans women.

You aren't comfortable with calling someone who wasn't born female she....am I wrong?

I do agree that kids can form their own opinion and if someone looks particularly like a man in a dress ofcourse they will comment and as awkward as it is they speak their mind....ive been in the situation with my brother cmoment ing on someone's appearence on a train once and it's mortifying.

But that's what's make kids great I suppose lol.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by pontyboi

You arnt getting what im saying...even now you're calling that person he and him and probably don't even know you're doing it. Not your fault and you shouldn't be made to feel bad about it either it's just how you feel instinctively about trans women.

You aren't comfortable with calling someone who wasn't born female she....am I wrong?

I do agree that kids can form their own opinion and if someone looks particularly like a man in a dress ofcourse they will comment and as awkward as it is they speak their mind....ive been in the situation with my brother cmoment ing on someone's appear nice on a train once and it's mortifying.

But that's what's make kids great I suppose lol.

But I don't know if he is actually trans, or is just a feminine guy who likes stereotypically womens clothing, or a drag queen (granted he would be a less..brash...drag queen if thats what he was) He did not clarify this.And given he was on about boys liking to wear makeup, that does sound to me like he is the correct pronoun to use anyway

I use preferred pronouns generally. My issue with India was that as she was going on constantly about being male, so I was ****ing up on pronouns. So was attempting to not **** up by using entirely gender neutral pronouns. After our talk the other day though I did try with she, and only messed up twice which wasn't as bad as I thought I actually didn't realise people would find gender neutral pronouns quite so offensive. My brain had such a disconnect with India...