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Originally Posted by Vicky.

I think that covers that pretty well?

It goes into physical force a lot more than verbal coercion though... as in, it's not always about picking up the cup and pouring it on someone's face. I think a lot of education is needed around verbal pressure, as I genuinely believe there are a LOT of people (male and female) who believe it's acceptable to "push" quite firmly. So in this analogy it would be like... "Oh go on... it's really GOOD tea, I promise. You won't regret drinking this tea. This tea is totally worth your while. Why do you still not want this lovely tea?" and then, the step further, can split two ways:

1) "Are you sure? Well... I've put a lot of effort into this tea you know. Why did you make yourself out to be a tea drinker? Do you even LIKE tea? I'm going to tell everyone that you hate tea."

OR

2) " No one ever wants my tea. What's wrong with my tea? I try really hard but people just never want tea with me. Am I ever going to make good tea? Is my tea really that offputting? I'm really upset. What would help? Well if you would just TRY some tea..?"


I personally don't think that any level of this is acceptable, but it clearly happens a lot. I certainly know several guys who frequently used tactics like that whith girls. And I know at least one girl who would "pester" / "guilt" a friend of mine into sex almost every weekend, knowing full well that he was never happy about it the next day.