[jet]

Originally Posted by Withano

You’re complaint comes off aggressive, insulting, and rude... so your problem with anybody being anything wont be taken as seriously as you’d like...

You are one of the biggest baiters on here, especially when it comes to Brillo. Got any bans lately?

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by jet

You are one of the biggest baiters on here, especially when it comes to Brillo. Got any bans lately?

100% agree with this one.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by jet

You are one of the biggest baiters on here, especially when it comes to Brillo. Got any bans lately?

Posts like this do nothing but bait and cause trouble not to mention are against the rules, again doing the very thing you accuse someone else of, if the thread descends into chaos and arguing it ends up closed and decent suggestions and grievances get overlooked.

[jet]

Originally Posted by Josy

Posts like this do nothing but bait and cause trouble not to mention are against the rules, again doing the very thing you accuse someone else of, if the thread descends into chaos and arguing it ends up closed and decent suggestions and grievances get overlooked.

But its okay for Withano to call Chuff's complaints aggressive, insulting and rude?
But okay, point taken.

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by jet

But its okay for Withano to call Chuff's complaints aggressive, insulting and rude?
But okay, point taken.

Exactly .......

[Ammi]

...I did think some things with Brillo felt uncomfortable and quite ‘targeting’...but do people not see, it’s the same with Dezzy now, the very same thing with the vein the thread has taken...I thought a private tea room type chat with a few members and staff to be the thing...not this hostility and targeting which is effectively bully behaviour....

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Ammi

...I did think some things with Brillo felt uncomfortable and quite ‘targeting’...but do people not see, it’s the same with Dezzy now, the very same thing with the vein the thread has taken...I thought a private tea room type chat with a few members and staff to be the thing...not this hostility and targeting which is effectively bully behaviour....

A privacy thing would have been better,but people decided to come into the thread and presume that the banned members were thowing tantrums because of bans etc,well that is not the case ,not for me anyway,but we are bound to retaliate when someone tells us what OUR problem is,lol, I have also felt deeply sorry for brillo at times,and I did liken it to bullying,I try very hard to ignore people I don't get on with but sometimes it's very hard to do,we are all human and not perfect but like I have said numerous times sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Kazanne

A privacy thing would have been better,but people decided to come into the thread and presume that the banned members were thowing tantrums because of bans etc,well that is not the case ,not for me anyway,but we are bound to retaliate when someone tells us what OUR problem is,lol, I have also felt deeply sorry for brillo at times,and I did liken it to bullying,I try very hard to ignore people I don't get on with but sometimes it's very hard to do,we are all human and not perfect but like I have said numerous times sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it.

.....yeah but probably things needed to be said as well Kaz ..so it’s a difficult one I guess...

[Withano]

Originally Posted by jet

You are one of the biggest baiters on here, especially when it comes to Brillo. Got any bans lately?

Report them when you see them, lord knows I do the same for you!

Brillo and I barely communicated in the weeks before her ban if you must know. I used to take issue with her posting style, but I didnt before her ban - it was much more thoughtful and diverse imo.

I have 4 in-date infractions, I think 3 of them are fair. I’m not screaming bias for the forth one that I disagree with because I’m already over it. Things happen.

[jet]

Originally Posted by Withano

Report them when you see them, lord knows I do the same for you!

Brillo and I barely communicated in the weeks before her ban if you must know. I used to take issue with her posting style, but I didnt before her ban - it was much more thoughtful and diverse imo.

I have 4 in-date infractions, I think 3 of them are fair. I’m not screaming bias for the forth one that I disagree with because I’m already over it. Things happen.

I rarely report posts, its just not something I feel comfortable doing.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by jet

I rarely report posts, its just not something I feel comfortable doing.

....hmmm, but then if you don’t personally report posts, Jet...but others may do with a post of yours for instance....does that not go in some way to explain what is felt to be ‘inconsistancy’...it could be more which posts are reported while others aren’t..?...

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by Ammi

....hmmm, but then if you don’t personally report posts, Jet...but others may do with a post of yours for instance....does that not go in some way to explain what is felt to be ‘inconsistancy’...it could be more which posts are reported while others aren’t..?...

I do agree with that, I was never comfortable reporting posts either but I think people get banned more on posts reported than anything else, makes you think , I still don't do it enough, I should have reported Smudgie yesterday for swearing

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Cherie

I do agree with that, I was never comfortable reporting posts either but I think people get banned more on posts reported than anything else, makes you think , I still don't do it enough, I should have reported Smudgie yesterday for swearing

reported.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by smudgie

reported.

....ooops, there she is...hang on, I’ll edit../..delete my post ...you creeping up on us Smudgie...

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Cherie

I do agree with that, I was never comfortable reporting posts either but I think people get banned more on posts reported than anything else, makes you think , I still don't do it enough, I should have reported Smudgie yesterday for swearing

..yeah Smudgie is actually the worst Cherie...mind you I think she has a golden touch or something because I report her daily and she’s still here as cheeky as ever...

...seriously though...many often seem to say ‘I don’t tend to report’...which I rarely do either so I’m equally guilty of that...but then there’s also ‘why does it feel inconsistent when that person said and was equally wrong etc’...when that might have a bearing on that...

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah Smudgie is actually the worst Cherie...mind you I think she has a golden touch or something because I report her daily and she’s still here as cheeky as ever...

...seriously though...many often seem to say ‘I don’t tend to report’...which I rarely do either so I’m equally guilty of that...but then there’s also ‘why does it feel inconsistent when that person said and was equally wrong etc’...when that might have a bearing on that...

There are certain people who deliberately goad though Ammi,just so they can report , these are the ones I try to avoid and I've done ok haven't had a ban for a long time other than yesterday, but sometimes I just think sod it,lol

[jet]

Originally Posted by Ammi

....hmmm, but then if you don’t personally report posts, Jet...but others may do with a post of yours for instance....does that not go in some way to explain what is felt to be ‘inconsistancy’...it could be more which posts are reported while others aren’t..?...

I've only had a few infractions so it doesn't really bother me Ammi, I accept them if fair. There was only the one last night leading to the ban which I felt was unfair and heavy handed and I'm over it.
There are bigger issues unfortunately.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Ammi

....hmmm, but then if you don’t personally report posts, Jet...but others may do with a post of yours for instance....does that not go in some way to explain what is felt to be ‘inconsistancy’...it could be more which posts are reported while others aren’t..?...

I do I report insulting posts, and if the moderators agree then action is taken,
can't see any merit in taking abuse.
Of course then if someone gets banned there's the usual histrionics but I don't feel responsible in any way, if someone can't remain civil then they alone are accountable.

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

I do I report insulting posts, and if the moderators agree then action is taken,
can't see any merit in taking abuse.
Of course then if someone gets banned there's the usual histrionics but I don't feel responsible in any way, if someone can't remain civil then they alone are accountable.

And no one nowhere has disputed that

[Withano]

Originally Posted by jet

I rarely report posts, its just not something I feel comfortable doing.

For closure, I’ve had several infractions for interactions with Brillo in the past, and I agree that the vast bulk of them are fair.

I’d add, if we’re putting those standards on to the rest of the forum in this specific thread, and the way they’re discussing members (most specifically Dezzy)... I would have thought there’d be over 100 points of infractions between the lot of us.