[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Oh, so it's just coincidence that it happens to be the mod that gave you that ban?

How do you know who banned me ? This will be interesting and prove our point of the sneaky stuff going on in PM if you've been told by a mod that they banned me .. my case will be proven

[Withano]

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

Now please take a minute and find where Ive "come back kicking and screaming " about getting a ban.... I took the ban on the chin as adults do ,my complaint is about ONE mod, not all mods

You’re complaint comes off aggressive, insulting, and rude... so your problem with anybody being anything wont be taken as seriously as you’d like...

[jet]

Originally Posted by Withano

You’re complaint comes off aggressive, insulting, and rude... so your problem with anybody being anything wont be taken as seriously as you’d like...

You are one of the biggest baiters on here, especially when it comes to Brillo. Got any bans lately?

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

How do you know who banned me ? This will be interesting and prove our point of the sneaky stuff going on in PM if you've been told by a mod that they banned me .. my case will be proven

Because Dezzy explained earlier in the thread how he dealt with the matter. There's nothing sneaky about it. He handed out three infraction points to everyone involved.

[Kazanne]

I for one wish some people would mind their own business and let the admins and mods get on with the job in hand and ,it's no good trying to find out what's gone on,most of you are so far off the mark but's it's fun to watch some thinking they know it all.

[Greg!]

Originally Posted by Cal.

They never should have went to Lidia’s gaff?

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by jet

You are one of the biggest baiters on here, especially when it comes to Brillo. Got any bans lately?

100% agree with this one.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by jet

You are one of the biggest baiters on here, especially when it comes to Brillo. Got any bans lately?

Posts like this do nothing but bait and cause trouble not to mention are against the rules, again doing the very thing you accuse someone else of, if the thread descends into chaos and arguing it ends up closed and decent suggestions and grievances get overlooked.

[Withano]

Originally Posted by jet

You are one of the biggest baiters on here, especially when it comes to Brillo. Got any bans lately?

Report them when you see them, lord knows I do the same for you!

Brillo and I barely communicated in the weeks before her ban if you must know. I used to take issue with her posting style, but I didnt before her ban - it was much more thoughtful and diverse imo.

I have 4 in-date infractions, I think 3 of them are fair. I’m not screaming bias for the forth one that I disagree with because I’m already over it. Things happen.

[jet]

Originally Posted by Josy

Posts like this do nothing but bait and cause trouble not to mention are against the rules, again doing the very thing you accuse someone else of, if the thread descends into chaos and arguing it ends up closed and decent suggestions and grievances get overlooked.

But its okay for Withano to call Chuff's complaints aggressive, insulting and rude?
But okay, point taken.

[Ammi]

...I did think some things with Brillo felt uncomfortable and quite ‘targeting’...but do people not see, it’s the same with Dezzy now, the very same thing with the vein the thread has taken...I thought a private tea room type chat with a few members and staff to be the thing...not this hostility and targeting which is effectively bully behaviour....

[Twosugars]

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

How do you know who banned me ? This will be interesting and prove our point of the sneaky stuff going on in PM if you've been told by a mod that they banned me .. my case will be proven

from what was said here earlier I don't think there's any need for shady stuff.
ban is triggered by a certain number of points, not by a mod as I understood it. Dezzy said he gave a round of 3 point infractions. In same cases, if people had certain number of points before that adding 3 points to their total took them over into an automatic ban.
We don't know how many points we have at any given time so bans tend to be a surprise.
Dezzy admitted to his recent infractions, but normally they're anonymous.
It'd be interesting to see how many points of people who complain about Dezzy were actually given by him. It could prove or disprove the theory that Dezzy is unfair to some people.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

I try to be an impartial on this forum as possible, mainly because at the end of the day...its a Big Brother Forum and I have enough **** in my real life without having to deal with beef on here. However, from the last couple of days my observations are:

1 - There is a definite pack mentality from all sides. The other day in the Anti-Semitic thread when it kicked off, it was reported in the chat threads as kicking off and then a mass influx of people came into the thread which inflamed it further leading to the bans. Nothing wrong with that in my opinion, in real life people stick up for their friends but the problem comes when it is obviously happening and then people only see it from the other side.

2. People take a real bashing on here - just recently Brillo has had numerous character assassinations and now Dezzy is getting it. A lot of the people who are here supporting Dezzy saying it shouldn't be happening (and I agree it shouldn't on a public forum) are people who either took part or watch in amusement at the Brillo bashing.

I don't know what people get out of it - borne from frustration maybe but there needs to be a line drawn as the toxicity is getting worse on here and it used to be such a great forum.

[jet]

Originally Posted by Withano

Report them when you see them, lord knows I do the same for you!

Brillo and I barely communicated in the weeks before her ban if you must know. I used to take issue with her posting style, but I didnt before her ban - it was much more thoughtful and diverse imo.

I have 4 in-date infractions, I think 3 of them are fair. I’m not screaming bias for the forth one that I disagree with because I’m already over it. Things happen.

I rarely report posts, its just not something I feel comfortable doing.

[hijaxers]

[QUOTE=chuff me dizzy;9945068]Totally agree with this ^^ the way Brillo is abused on here ( Livia too ) is disgusting and its always the same people who now are crying into their coffee because their friend is getting spoken about for not doing his job in the manner it should be done ,Good old members have been driven off this forum because of the actions of a few,and if this place is going to attract nice people who feel free to chat without getting abused something has to change, and it starts at the top[/QUOTE

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by jet

I rarely report posts, its just not something I feel comfortable doing.

....hmmm, but then if you don’t personally report posts, Jet...but others may do with a post of yours for instance....does that not go in some way to explain what is felt to be ‘inconsistancy’...it could be more which posts are reported while others aren’t..?...

[Withano]

Originally Posted by jet

I rarely report posts, its just not something I feel comfortable doing.

For closure, I’ve had several infractions for interactions with Brillo in the past, and I agree that the vast bulk of them are fair.

I’d add, if we’re putting those standards on to the rest of the forum in this specific thread, and the way they’re discussing members (most specifically Dezzy)... I would have thought there’d be over 100 points of infractions between the lot of us.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Ammi

....hmmm, but then if you don’t personally report posts, Jet...but others may do with a post of yours for instance....does that not go in some way to explain what is felt to be ‘inconsistancy’...it could be more which posts are reported while others aren’t..?...

I do agree with that, I was never comfortable reporting posts either but I think people get banned more on posts reported than anything else, makes you think , I still don't do it enough, I should have reported Smudgie yesterday for swearing

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Ammi

...I did think some things with Brillo felt uncomfortable and quite ‘targeting’...but do people not see, it’s the same with Dezzy now, the very same thing with the vein the thread has taken...I thought a private tea room type chat with a few members and staff to be the thing...not this hostility and targeting which is effectively bully behaviour....

A privacy thing would have been better,but people decided to come into the thread and presume that the banned members were thowing tantrums because of bans etc,well that is not the case ,not for me anyway,but we are bound to retaliate when someone tells us what OUR problem is,lol, I have also felt deeply sorry for brillo at times,and I did liken it to bullying,I try very hard to ignore people I don't get on with but sometimes it's very hard to do,we are all human and not perfect but like I have said numerous times sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it.

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Cherie

I do agree with that, I was never comfortable reporting posts either but I think people get banned more on posts reported than anything else, makes you think , I still don't do it enough, I should have reported Smudgie yesterday for swearing

reported.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Feuds are worse offseason than onseason tbh

I've definitely noticed it a bit more lately on the SD section, it's always been a place for debates/arguments, but I don't know it feels kinda like members really dislike each other on there which I've never felt like that before when visiting that section of the Forum.

I'm hoping that it's just me being OTT as I can be like that sometimes.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Cherie

I do agree with that, I was never comfortable reporting posts either but I think people get banned more on posts reported than anything else, makes you think , I still don't do it enough, I should have reported Smudgie yesterday for swearing

..yeah Smudgie is actually the worst Cherie...mind you I think she has a golden touch or something because I report her daily and she’s still here as cheeky as ever...

...seriously though...many often seem to say ‘I don’t tend to report’...which I rarely do either so I’m equally guilty of that...but then there’s also ‘why does it feel inconsistent when that person said and was equally wrong etc’...when that might have a bearing on that...

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by smudgie

reported.

....ooops, there she is...hang on, I’ll edit../..delete my post ...you creeping up on us Smudgie...

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Kazanne

A privacy thing would have been better,but people decided to come into the thread and presume that the banned members were thowing tantrums because of bans etc,well that is not the case ,not for me anyway,but we are bound to retaliate when someone tells us what OUR problem is,lol, I have also felt deeply sorry for brillo at times,and I did liken it to bullying,I try very hard to ignore people I don't get on with but sometimes it's very hard to do,we are all human and not perfect but like I have said numerous times sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it.

.....yeah but probably things needed to be said as well Kaz ..so it’s a difficult one I guess...

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I don’t think any of us that might say ‘do people take these things so seriously, really..’...have never taken stuff seriously ourselves at some points and some situations, Mock......with a forum such as TiBB and the whole nature of it..we’re all here because of so many close bonds etc...so yes, with that...there will be ‘taken seriously’ as well...there couldn’t not be...we wouldn’t be human and we wouldn’t have balance with the absence of ‘taking things seriously’ at times....

Personally for me the only things that I'd take seriously on here and would be offended is if anyone insulted me on the Forum and wasn't joking, and then tried to defend themselves if I was to confront them about it. Also I wouldn't stand for bullying on the Forum either.

I know that we're all different though and some people do get more bothered about certain things that I just don't get personally, I suppose it is what makes the Forum so special to me is it isn't an echo chamber.