[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Stacey.x

I've only just got this lmao. :L

It took me a while too

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by simonsays

when i saw you sat on that train

Yeah he's a fitty mcvitty.

[LemonJam]

I nearly vomited at the amount of yes's.

[Shaun]

pmsl. same

[Jords]

No.

How can you know what somebody is like just by looking at them? This is just something for the soppy people.

[Kerry]

No. Romantic that I am I believe love has to develop.

Lust though, yes, of course

[Miss Ivy Balls]

No.

In my mind I think I do, though. Not straight away, but my brain still convinces me that I'm in love with Z person. Not even someone I know, it can be someone off the TV.

[Stacey.]

Originally Posted by Thomas C

No.

In my mind I think I do, though. Not straight away, but my brain still convinces me that I'm in love with Z person. Not even someone I know, it can be someone off the TV.

Joe McElderry?

Even Daniel-Lewis...

[MTVN]

No, you can lust someone, you can be really attracted to someone, but you cant love them.

It's a nice idea though

[BB_Eye]

You can't pretend something as sensuous, dangerous and unpredictable as love can be subordinate to all that 'getting to know eachother' malarkey and your personal value judgements. Sure those factors come into play when selecting a partner, but it's more useful for being good friends than lovers, which is necessary for a marriage, NOT for love.

So my answer is yes.

[Yuna]

No. Whatever it is it's definitely not love.

[joeysteele]

I believe in love at first sight,definately, but I won't fall in love for a long time,if ever, I am way too scared of commitment to one person.

[InOne]

No. People often mistake love for lust. A charming smile and a smooth talker and people think they're in love

[setanta]

Originally Posted by BB_Eye

You can't pretend something as sensuous, dangerous and unpredictable as love can be subordinate to all that 'getting to know eachother' malarkey and your personal value judgements. Sure those factors come into play when selecting a partner, but it's more useful for being good friends than lovers, which is necessary for a marriage, NOT for love.

So my answer is yes.

Good answer. You know, I watched a documentary once ages ago that came to the conclusion that smells are terribly important to us too in selecting a mate, ie. the natural smell of the other person.... it indicates to us on a certain level whether we would have healthy babies. Honestly, sounds mad but they did tests on the principle, with most people going for their perfect genetic match just from their smell alone - they were all blindfolded.

So yeah, who's to say we don't work the same way visually? That there's other forces at work when we select a partner other than the "what's your starsign/do you come her often/what do you want outta life" stuff. Something more primal I suppose. Maybe not love or lust... something different.

[Zippy]

Originally Posted by setanta

Good answer.

LOL.

Its only a good answer if you want to make love a vague, wishywashy word that fits any situation. If its to have any deep meaning then it can't just be based on a glance.

Put it this way; if you glanced at somebody and thought you had fallen in love instantly...would you then be devastated if you heard that they got hit by a truck and died 10 minutes later?

No. Because you didnt know them at all. And you wouldnt start saying that somebody you had fallen in love with had been killed either. Because you didnt love them, you were just attracted to them.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by Zippy

LOL.

Its only a good answer if you want to make love a vague, wishywashy word that fits any situation. If its to have any deep meaning then it can't just be based on a glance.

Put it this way; if you glanced at somebody and thought you had fallen in love instantly...would you then be devastated if you heard that they got hit by a truck and died 10 minutes later?

No. Because you didnt know them at all. And you wouldnt start saying that somebody you had fallen in love with had been killed either. Because you didnt love them, you were just attracted to them.

God Zippy, were you hunting for something to be sarcy about last night? You grab one sentence and run with it without glancing at the rest of what I said? Fair enough.

[Angus]

Originally Posted by BB_Eye

You can't pretend something as sensuous, dangerous and unpredictable as love can be subordinate to all that 'getting to know eachother' malarkey and your personal value judgements. Sure those factors come into play when selecting a partner, but it's more useful for being good friends than lovers, which is necessary for a marriage, NOT for love.

So my answer is yes.

What you're describing is lust, not love by any definition I would describe it.
There are many forms of love - the love you have for your family and friends, the love you have for your child, or the love you have for your partner. They are all very different, and yet all have the same features - encompassing, all forgiving, unconditional and unselfish - you would do anything for the object of your affection, even die for them.

There is no comparison with mere lust which, for a short duration, can be intense, all consuming, and often torturous. Give me enduring,unconditional, LOVE that accepts and treasures all my faults and quirks any day over the fleeting pleasures of lust which is based purely on looks and sexual attraction. Beauty, like lust, fades but love is forever.

[Zippy]

Originally Posted by setanta

God Zippy, were you hunting for something to be sarcy about last night?

Yes.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Zippy

LOL.

Its only a good answer if you want to make love a vague, wishywashy word that fits any situation. If its to have any deep meaning then it can't just be based on a glance.

Put it this way; if you glanced at somebody and thought you had fallen in love instantly...would you then be devastated if you heard that they got hit by a truck and died 10 minutes later?

No. Because you didnt know them at all. And you wouldnt start saying that somebody you had fallen in love with had been killed either. Because you didnt love them, you were just attracted to them.

100% agree with this, but like I said before it completely depends on what your definition of love actually is and for me it is impossible to love someone without knowing them.

In fact it actually trivialises the word saying that you can love someone before you have even spoken to them imo.

[SoBig]

Originally Posted by Zippy

Its very easy to say in hindsight that you fell in love at first sight. But in truth it wasn't.

True love comes from a knowledge of somebody, not a glance. You can be attracted, intrigued or lustful at first sight. But not in love.

It's just a mushy cliche really.

This is exactly what I was going to post. You're on point.

[Z]

I don't believe in love at first sight; I think it takes time to build a rapport with someone up to the level of trust, respect and admiration that I think love consists of. I think love works in mysterious ways (to use another cliché ) and it's a very distinct, personal thing. I'm sure we've all either witnessed, heard of or even experienced relationships where you can't believe the people involved would ever fall for each other, but who are we to pass judgment on something we don't understand? I think it's possible to experience an initial connection with someone, maybe it's a look you share or maybe you get on like a house on fire or whatever, but love it certainly is not.

[MissKittyFantastico]

100% no.

How can you fall in love with someone before they've even opened their mouth, or before you know anything about them? Lust, yes. Physical attraction, yes. Love is something that comes from a much deeper place than superficial first impressions.

[shaunmills]

Hi,
I live in USA.
Yes I do believe in love at first sight. I am not saying that falling in love with a girl ensures prolonged relationship. This is just destiny according to me. I believe in it because it happened to me 2 years ago and fortunately the girl is my wife now.
Cheers!!!!!!

[arista]

Originally Posted by shaunmills

Hi,
I live in USA.
Yes I do believe in love at first sight. I am not saying that falling in love with a girl ensures prolonged relationship. This is just destiny according to me. I believe in it because it happened to me 2 years ago and fortunately the girl is my wife now.
Cheers!!!!!!

I Say
Spiffing.

[Crimson Dynamo]

It would depend on your definition of love but it is impossible. What happens is that there are occasions when someone who is very attracted to someone else when they set eyes on them, gets together, finds out they tick all the boxes and then falls in love. This propagates the love at first sight myth.