[Stacey.]

Originally Posted by NingleBells

saying you're following your heart is just another word for being selfish.

Not really.. if you didn't ever follow your heart you'd never do exactly what you wanted. If that means being selfish then whatever.. everything you do should be for yourself.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Stacey.

Not really.. if you didn't ever follow your heart you'd never do exactly what you wanted. If that means being selfish then whatever.. everything you do should be for yourself.

It's selfishness simple as, if you ever want to have any sort of meaningful relationships you have to take other people into account as well. What sort of a person would you be stealing anyway if he's prepared to drop is wife/g/f for someone else? What would make you think he wouldn't do the same to you when someone new flutters their eyelashes at him?

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by NingleBells

saying you're following your heart is just another word for being selfish.

It's better to be selfish and happy then to be sad and stuck in a doomed relationship since you're preventing your partner from finding someone better too.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Prezzie

It's better to be selfish and happy then to be sad and stuck in a doomed relationship since you're preventing your partner from finding someone better too.

If you're in a doomed relationship though you should just split up, why do you need to be stolen?

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by NingleBells

If you're in a doomed relationship though you should just split up, why do you need to be stolen?

Maybe you're staying together for the kids or for the benefit opf having someone there? There's plenty of reasons why people stay together but if people have a chance to be happy they should take it as staying together in a doomed relationship just makes all involved unhappy.

[Jack_]

Good question. I guess it sorta all boils down to who likes/loves the person more [i.e if the person you're stealing from is totally in love with the person, but you just like them or vice versa], in which case if you think you like them less than the other person you should probably do the moral thing and leave them to it, but again gauging something like that would be extremely difficult. And if it did turn out that you were both totally in love with the person then it makes matters a whole lot worse I suppose. So I'm torn. Half of me says it's immoral, the other half says some things really are just too hard to resist...

[Tom4784]

I suppose it depends on what your definition of 'stealing' someone is, do you consider it cheating on someone or leaving your partner for someone else or both? You can't help it if you fall for someone but you can help yourself cheating. If it was me I'd just break up with the person I'm with before anything happened as if I was looking it would obviously mean I'm not happy. It'd be less of a headache then cheating.

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Prezzie

I suppose it depends on what your definition of 'stealing' someone is, do you consider it cheating on someone or leaving your partner for someone else or both? You can't help it if you fall for someone but you can help yourself cheating. If it was me I'd just break up with the person I'm with before anything happened as if I was looking it would obviously mean I'm not happy. It'd be less of a headache then cheating.

'Stealing' in this context to me means taking another person's partner off them, but without any cheating. So basically someone I like ends their relationship with their partner to be with me.

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by JackFrost

'Stealing' in this context to me means taking another person's partner off them, but without any cheating. So basically someone I like ends their relationship with their partner to be with me.

That's the context I've been thinking about it in.

I think that's fine, you can't stay with someone you no longer like and a quick break up now is better then a messier one later when you have responsibilities. It's probably Immoral to cheat and I wouldn't myself but I'm not about to judge others by my set of standards either.

[Mr XcX]

Survival of the fittest.

[Beastie]

Originally Posted by Tom

Something that has been annoying me for a bit, is it immoral to steal someone elses partner or is it just bad luck? Should you follow head or heart?

Follow your heart. However I would never go out of my way to "steal" someone's boyfriend or girlfriend. Love for me just naturally tends to come. I don't believe in "fighting" for love. If your love with another person is going to break apart then it just is. You can't control it. I do agree you need to "fight" for love more if you are like married but then there should be a breaking point when enough is enough! << Whether in a relationship or marriage but yeah you should work harder at a marriage!

[cub]

This ugly camp bloke flirted outrageously with my ex it was a joke. Sadly, my ex couldn't resist and did it with him anyway. I was heartbroken. Not only because of the obvious but that the flirt was such an alcoholic, spotty dog anyway. My revenge came when I learned he'd given my ex an STD.

[Legend killer]

It's a dog eat dog world

[Boothy]

Nah, I'd never make a girl end a relationship with my mate so that she could enter a relationship with me. And their are two main reasons why:

- If a girl was willing to leave my best mate for me, who's to say she won't leave me for another guy later down the line?

- The relationship I have with my mates is not worth sacrificing for a girl. Not any girl. Barney Stinson says it best - Bros before hoes.

However, if my mate and said girl had already split up, I really liked this girl and my mate was 100% cool with it, then I'd consider being with her.

[Shasown]

Originally Posted by Tom

Something that has been annoying me for a bit, is it immoral to steal someone elses partner or is it just bad luck? Should you follow head or heart?

What are you going to do about the pregnant girlfriend? Or have you already binned her?

[Tom]

Originally Posted by Shasown

What are you going to do about the pregnant girlfriend? Or have you already binned her?

Shes no longer either.

[Shasown]

Originally Posted by Tom

Shes no longer either.

Sorry to hear that. Can be a bit of a gut wrencher that.

Make sure you arent acting slightly irrationally as a result of any baggage from that though.

[Beastie]

Originally Posted by Tom

Shes no longer either.

Your ex girlfriend had a miscarriage? Ouch. And you was getting revved up to be a daddy!!

[Judas]

It depends, I think it is fine if it isn't just lust and you both actually feel some meaningfull. (That makes me sound really boring... but I'm sure you can judge how far lust alone should be taken :P). I don't think it is stealing or survival of the fittest, if you both think getting together is right then go for it, even though the other bloke will get hurt for abit.

[Shaun]

please don't confuse "being a pussy" with Darwinism.

[LemonJam]

Depends on the situation.

[Rob]

completely depends on the situation i think, if the boy/girl is willing to be stolen then it shows they are not 100% happy in their relationship and it would probably go wrong at some point anyhow.

[BB_Eye]

I wouldn't steal anybody else's partner and that's purely self-interest talking. I don't like the idea of living out a soap opera cliche and the chances are somebody who can lie to their own partner compulsively is not worth my time.

[Niall]

I agree with Dezzy. Why keep yourself and your partner unhappy if you both stay together but don't love each other? Its silly.

I would like to think that if I was ever in that situation then my other half would have the kindness to let us part ways with dignity rather then having to stay in a dead-end relationship forever.

[\PJ/]

Lust for another person can destroy a relationship.