[Angus]

Originally Posted by NingleBells

well I couldn't comment on your family really as I don't you or them but you should take notice of their advice if they're people who really care about you, most people learn that the hard way though! (myself included!)

Exactly. It's not that my friends and family were trying to upset or alienate me by disapproving of my ex, but that, being objective (unlike me), they had seen something in him which wasn't right and they were concerned for me. They didn't actively do anything to prevent me marrying him, they just voiced their concerns to me, and they did their best to welcome him once we were married, but he didn't want to know.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by King Herod

Exactly. It's not that my friends and family were trying to upset or alienate me by disapproving of my ex, but that, being objective (unlike me), they had seen something in him which wasn't right and they were concerned for me. They didn't actively do anything to prevent me marrying him, they just voiced their concerns to me, and they did their best to welcome him once we were married, but he didn't want to know.

yeah exactly and the same with my family when I was with my ex. But it does of course depend on your family though, I would guess that most families only want what's best for their child/brother/sister etc

[Livia]

Every time my family have disliked someone, he's turned out to be a t*sser. Can't argue with a track record like that.

[MTVN]

My friends would have more influence over my relationships then my family would tbh

[GypsyGoth]

It wouldn't bother me if my sis didn't like my partner, but I think it would if my mom didn't like them. And I'm not sure about the whole marriage thing.

[Lewis.]

The way I see it is that it's my life so why should I be effected by what others think, even if it's your own family. At the end of the day we are all separate people and we should all live our lives how we want to. We'll learn from our mistakes in the end, if that's the case, but at least it's what we wanted to do.