[Jords]

Marriage = 1 + 1

Shouldnt be allowed, takes away what the tradition is about.
And if its with brothers thats distrubing...

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Jords

Marriage = 1 + 1

Shouldnt be allowed, takes away what the tradition is about.
And if its with brothers thats distrubing...

LOL..I think I would agree with that...but maybe in some cultures...it's accepted

[Jords]

Originally Posted by Ammi

LOL..I think I would agree with that...but maybe in some cultures...it's accepted

I find it very odd cant see the appeal at all???
And you know 3's a crowd and shes gonna prefer 1 at least a little more than the other. Paranoia would be crazy amongst the men

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Jords

I find it very odd cant see the appeal at all???
And you know 3's a crowd and shes gonna prefer 1 at least a little more than the other. Paranoia would be crazy amongst the men

Exactly, that's human nature

[Ammi]

..well..I can't see that you can 'go against the grain' of everything marriage has stood for....I'm sure there are communes that would rejoice it..but I don't think there's much 'demand'

[Roy Mars III]

There is nothing wrong with polygamy if everyone is consenting.

[Livia]

Well I think it should be encouraged, at least in a couple of years we can watch them all on Jeremy Kyle telling us how it all went so terribly wrong.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Livia

Well I think it should be encouraged, at least in a couple of years we can watch them all on Jeremy Kyle telling us how it all went so terribly wrong.

LOL..we see that now..and it's pretty dull
..there's only one thing worse than seeing girls making a bad choice in men...making several

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Livia

Well I think it should be encouraged, at least in a couple of years we can watch them all on Jeremy Kyle telling us how it all went so terribly wrong.

I concur.

[Bollo]

If everyone involved is fully consenting I don't see the problem.

But I saw a documentary where it is part of their custom in a small village in India. The women had to marry the brother/s of their husband so that the brother/s could ensure he inherited part of the family land or something, the women didn't seem all that happy.

[Josy]

Each to their own but for me marraige is about caring so much for one person that you want to devote your life to them.

[King Gizzard]

That was beautiful, Josy

[Josy]

I know

[Jessica.]

How do they not get really jealous? I wouldn't cope at all if my husband had more than one wife, I would be way too jealous and I wouldn't want more than one husband either.

[King Gizzard]

They'll say they wont but they secretly will get jealous

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by Nathan

They'll say that wont but they secretly will get jealous

I saw a documentary before, about a guy who was married to twin women, they would take turns sharing the bed and they admitted separately that they did get jealous of their twin.

[King Gizzard]

One of them is probably dead now

[lostalex]

I don't have a problem with it when it's an equal relationship between consenting adults.

BUT I think most polygamous relationships involve girls/women being forced into it and brainwashed and it's more to do with religion than being free sexually. They are most common in the middle east and africa where young girls are forced to marry much older men.

Girls/women are seen as a burden on their families so they are pressurred or forced into these marriages. As the man get's older and wealthier he just collects more and more young wives. Also wives in these countries are basically just servants and sex slaves. I don't like that.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I don't have a problem with it when it's an equal relationship between consenting adults.

BUT I think most polygamous relationships involve girls/women being forced into it and brainwashed and it's more to do with religion than being free sexually. They are most common in the middle east and africa where young girls are forced to marry much older men.

Girls/women are seen as a burden on their families so they are pressurred or forced into these marriages. As the man get's older and wealthier he just collects more and more young wives. Also wives in these countries are basically just servants and sex slaves. I don't like that.

Yeah, exactly Alex, I'm not an expert on the subject by any means but from what I can gather most of these countries that have these type of marriages are ones where women are not equals to men.

[fruit_cake]

The one pervading evil of democracy is the tyranny of the majority
—The History of Freedom in Antiquity, 1877

I think this applies here. Just because probably more people morally object to polyandry than don't, does not mean it should be illegal. Neither does the fact that in some cases it hasn't worked (like those Alex refers to) mean it should be illegal. You can say the same about gay or lesbian marriage. Just because the majority probably oppose it for moral reasons, does not make it wrong.

There are plenty of monogamous relationships and marriages that are totally unproductive and can also lead to the kind of circumstances Alex has described. It's not just between lovers but friendships between isolated individuals can become very unhealthy too when they are just always the same two people, repeating the same things to each other and indulding each others prejudices imo.

Maybe it's a different debate altogether but I think this issue and many others all boil down to either you believe that the state should have to right to dictate it's morality onto you or you don't I guess.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

I think this applies here. Just because probably more people morally object to polyandry than don't, does not mean it should be illegal. Neither does the fact that in some cases it hasn't worked (like those Alex refers to) mean it should be illegal. You can say the same about gay or lesbian marriage. Just because the majority probably oppose it for moral reasons, does not make it wrong.

There are plenty of monogamous relationships and marriages that are totally unproductive and can also lead to the kind of circumstances Alex has described. It's not just between lovers but friendships between isolated individuals can become very unhealthy too when they are just always the same two people, repeating the same things to each other and indulding each others prejudices imo.

Maybe it's a different debate altogether but I think this issue and many others all boil down to either you believe that the state should have to right to dictate it's morality onto you or you don't I guess.

I never said i opppose it, actually i said the opposite, i said that i support EQUAL relationships between consenting adults.

I said i am concerned by the vast majority of polygamous relationships, which are religion based and do not provide equality to women.

i think it's very interesterssting that the VAST majority of polygamous relationships involve just one man and multiple women, considering we live in a PATRIARCHAL society, it seems the vast majority of advocates for polygamy seem to be men that want to have a HAREM of women.

That is concerning to me. especially because these men also don't seem to be equally supportive of women having a HAREM of men, they argue that MEN should be in control, and that women are their servants. they usually justify their misogyny by quoting some religious text, that women should be subservient to men.

Any argument for misogyny or inequality is not anything i'd support.