[Marc]

Also, she used to scare us by saying "you wait until your father gets home!"

Used to crap myself

[Marsh.]

My nan used to put her slipper on the sofa as a warning. It was never more than a light tap, her temper more than sufficed if the kids were naughty. lol

[Ninastar]

I think that it should be used, but only as a last resort.

I've noticed recently that a lot of parent's have no idea how to control their children.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

I think that it should be used, but only as a last resort.

I've noticed recently that a lot of parent's have no idea how to control their children.

The thing about it is though most people hit there kids out of anger or frustration and that's not how you should discipline your kids imo

[Tom4784]

No, a good parent should never have to resort to any sort of violence. Anyone who does it will earn nothing but the full extent of my wrath.

[Marc]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

No, a good parent should never have to resort to any sort of violence. Anyone who does it will earn nothing but the full extent of my wrath.

That's hard to say though, society and school is a major factor in kids behaviour and that's pretty detached from the parent's control

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by Marc

That's hard to say though, society and school is a major factor in kids behaviour and that's pretty detached from the parent's control

A child's behavior doesn't come into it, parents shouldn't have to resort to violence regardless. Ruling kids with the fear of being hurt is a terrible way of raising children.

[Marc]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

A child's behavior doesn't come into it, parents shouldn't have to resort to violence regardless. Ruling kids with the fear of being hurt is a terrible way of raising children.

I don't know if you can say that tbh in fact you basically just said my mum is a terrible parent. Until we have kids, we won't know what's best.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Marc

I don't know if you can say that tbh in fact you basically just said my mum is a terrible parent. Until we have kids, we won't know what's best.

Think that's a bit of an overreaction.

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by Marc

I don't know if you can say that tbh in fact you basically just said my mum is a terrible parent. Until we have kids, we won't know what's best.

Sorry but that's how I feel, smacking is for lazy parents.

[bbfan1991]

I think a little tap is acceptable if kids are being naughty to teach them a lesson that what they did is wrong, although some parents go too far sometimes in wanting to teach them a lesson.

[Redway]

OK...my post on the other thread didn't get an anazing reaction, and I later did change my mind, but for older kids, deffo. I honestly don't have the energy to be ****ed about. I have a terrible temper.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Redway

OK...my post on the other thread didn't get an anazing reaction, and I later did change my mind, but for older kids, deffo. I honestly don't have the energy to be ****ed about. I have a terrible temper.

Get help.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by kizzy

Get help.

I've been saying that since last July when he claimed he'd just lost his entire family in a car pileup.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by 08marsh

I've been saying that since last July when he claimed he'd just lost his entire family in a car pileup.

What?... flippin eck!

[arista]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

No, a good parent should never have to resort to any sort of violence. Anyone who does it will earn nothing but the full extent of my wrath.

No if a 4 year old is in the Road
Yes a Smack is correct
it tells that child that its Danger.


That is Common Sense Dezzy

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by arista

No if a 4 year old is in the Road
Yes a Smack is correct
it tells that child that its Danger.


That is Common Sense Dezzy

I agree....if the child doesn't respond to being told no and does it again or continues to repeat same bad / dangerous behaviour - words clearly aren't working so I see nothing wrong with a smack on the hand or such.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

I agree....if the child doesn't respond to being told no and does it again or continues to repeat same bad / dangerous behaviour - words clearly aren't working so I see nothing wrong with a smack on the hand or such.

This.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

I agree....if the child doesn't respond to being told no and does it again or continues to repeat same bad / dangerous behaviour - words clearly aren't working so I see nothing wrong with a smack on the hand or such.

and do you think it's acceptable to hit or abuse anyone else if they don't agree with you? would you hit disabled people, or hit elderly people if they don't agree with you? Why do you think that it's okay to hit children but no one else? I don't understand your logic.

you are making the same arguments that slave owners would make for hitting or whipping slaves.

You are beating sense into them? IS that the logic?

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by lostalex

and do you think it's acceptable to hit or abuse anyone else if they don't agree with you? would you hit disabled people, or hit elderly people if they don't agree with you? Why do you think that it's okay to hit children but no one else? I don't understand your logic.

you are making the same arguments that slave owners would make for hitting or whipping slaves.

You are beating sense into them? IS that the logic?

Show me where I said beating formed part of my opinion.........

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally Posted by lostalex

and do you think it's acceptable to hit or abuse anyone else if they don't agree with you? would you hit disabled people, or hit elderly people if they don't agree with you? Why do you think that it's okay to hit children but no one else? I don't understand your logic.

you are making the same arguments that slave owners would make for hitting or whipping slaves.

You are beating sense into them? IS that the logic?

It's not about chastising a child because they disagree with you, it's about teaching right from wrong. I personally hate it, say for instance, you are in a supermarket, and a child is being a pain, and the parent whacks them one, hard. That is out of their own short temper, and maybe not the best way to react. It's about teaching by association, if you like. It's not up to us though to decide for other people. There is no right or wrong (unless it is extreme), only our opinions. Everyone has conflicting views, and everybody is different.

Parenthood is a learning process also...

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by arista

No if a 4 year old is in the Road
Yes a Smack is correct
it tells that child that its Danger.


That is Common Sense Dezzy

You're wrong Arista. I have never hit my kids and neither have been hit by a car yet and both are well behaved.

[Mystic Mock]

As long as you don't hit them to hard then I think it's alright, but I would prefer to threaten them with a smacking than actually going through with it if I was a parent.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by jedward fever

As long as you don't hit them to hard then I think it's alright, but I would prefer to threaten them with a smacking than actually going through with it if I was a parent.

That's a pitfall of parenting imo. Eventually the clever little buggers cotton onto the fact that your threats are empty and don't behave.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by 08marsh

That's a pitfall of parenting imo. Eventually the clever little buggers cotton onto the fact that your threats are empty and don't behave.

But that's when I probably would start doing it if they was really being naughty.