[Redway]

If there are members on here who seriously labour under the stupid illusion that they are in any position to decide what someone who clearly has their own mind - and who they will never see again (and don't care much about beyond the show) - then I do worry.

Incidentally, coming from the guy who doesn't worry enough about the effects of smoking to not do it, that's saying something.

[lostalex]

I will just say this. My mom died in 2005. And i didn't want to have anything to do with the funeral preparations. does that mean that i didn't love my mother? does that mean that i'm selfish and horrible? i had some family members that judged me based on that.

I would submit to people, that unless you have had such a major loss in your life, you don't know how you would respond.

Me not wanting to have anything to do with my mom's funeral had nothing at all to do with how much i loved her, and in many ways it was the exact opposite.

Does it not occur to anyone that maybe some people don't want to have anything to do with a funeral because maybe yu arn't very happy to be planning a PARTY for someone's death, that maybe you need to deal with that loss in your own way, and maybe you need to do things in your own way and in your own time.

When it comes to death i think people need to keep their opinions to themselves.

[alex_front2]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I will just say this. My mom died in 2005. And i didn't want to have anything to do with the funeral preparations. does that mean that i didn't love my mother? does that mean that i'm selfish and horrible? i had some family members that judged me based on that.

I would submit to people, that unless you have had such a major loss in your life, you don't know how you would respond.

Me not wanting to have anything to do with my mom's funeral had nothing at all to do with how much i loved her, and in many ways it was the exact opposite.

Does it not occur to anyone that maybe some people don't want to have anything to do with a funeral because maybe yu arn't very happy to be planning a PARTY for someone's death, that maybe you need to deal with that loss in your own way, and maybe you need to do things in your own way and in your own time.

When it comes to death i think people need to keep their opinions to themselves.

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by alex_front2

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

Don't you take this personally... everyone's personal circumstances colours everything they think and do, and sometimes using your own personal circumstances justifies your own opinions. We've heard an awful lot about your own personal circumstances, after all.

Everyone treats death differently and everyone copes differently. There is no right or wrong way, only what's right or wrong for you.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by alex_front2

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

i never dictated what anyone can and can't say around here. I'm not a mod and i have no power over what people can and can't say. I only gave my opinion.

[Marc]

lostalex, calm down. Your replies seem very rude

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Marc

lostalex, calm down. Your replies seem very rude

i havn't said anything rude. If i did i'm sure you would have given me an infraction by now.

[sarakss]

Originally Posted by lostalex

i havn't said anything rude. If i did i'm sure you would have given me an infraction by now.

Your responses since the start of this thread have been rude and dismissive.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by sarakss

Your responses since the start of this thread have been rude and dismissive.

the OP was rude and dismissive by your standards.

[sarakss]

Originally Posted by lostalex

the OP was rude and dismissive by your standards.

How can the OP be dismissive by asking a question? Asking a question is inviting a response, not trying to silence someone.

[Marc]

Because you haven't insulted anybody. But I don't agree that you can just shut a thread down like that and snap at people saying it's none of their business etc.

It's a forum, to discuss BB related stories, Scott's never going to find this forum and never going to read this thread.

It is strange that somebody wouldn't go to their sister's funeral

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Marc

Because you haven't insulted anybody. But I don't agree that you can just shut a thread down like that and snap at people saying it's none of their business etc.

It's a forum, to discuss BB related stories, Scott's never going to find this forum and never going to read this thread.

It is strange that somebody wouldn't go to their sister's funeral

I didn't shut anything down, you are a mod though, so you actually do shut threads down. i think it's hilarious that you as a person that has actually shut threads down is accussing me of what you have actually done.

I didn't shut anything down, i'm just emotional about this issue because i know what it's like to be judged for the way i've greived about my loved ones. I have not been rude in any way though.


and saying that Scott is never going to read this threaD/ we have had many former housemates post on this forum, so why would you say that??

[Iceman]

You telling people to keep their opinions to themselves = shutting thread down.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Iceman

You telling people to keep their opinions to themselves = shutting thread down.

I don't have the authority to tell anyone what to do. I think i explained my position in a rational way.

[Jordan.]

He went to his sisters funeral with half shaven red curly hair?

[lostalex]

There are certain mods on this forum that would love an excuse to infract and/or ban me, and i won't give them the satisfaction, and because they don't have an excuse to infract me, they decide to just try to intimidate me instead. I'm fully aware of what is going on here.

Sorry, but i'm on to your game.

[Marc]

Originally Posted by lostalex

There are certain mods on this forum that would love an excuse to infract and/or ban me, and i won't give them the satisfaction, and because they don't have an excuse to infract me, they decide to just try to intimidate me instead. I'm fully aware of what is going on here.

Sorry, but i'm on to your game.

Seriously? I do not intend to intimidate anybody, I wouldn't know how to start. You need to just stop being so rude and snappy at people on this forum.

You stop that and you'll stop the MODs getting on your back. We're trying to make this forum a nice place for people to come on and not get into arguments with people, yet some members chose to be rude which then intimidates other members.

[lostalex]

I'm not being rude dude, i'm giving my opinion about something that i've had personal experience with. Because i've had personal experience with this type of situation, i shared my experience, and your lack of sensitivity is more rude than anything i've said.

read every post i've made, they were all on topic and i made no attacks or rude statements to anyone.
Do i think people wanting to judge Scott based on how he mourns his loss is obscene and inappropriate? yes. i don't see how that's rude though.

[Marc]

You're pretty much shutting everybodies opinion down because you've experienced death, we've all experienced death. We all have opinions but it doesn't mean you get to quote everybody who has a different opinion to you and drum it into them that they shouldn't think that way.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Marc

You're pretty much shutting everybodies opinion down because you've experienced death, we've all experienced death. We all have opinions but it doesn't mean you get to quote everybody who has a different opinion to you and drum it into them that they shouldn't think that way.

well i havn't heard anyone else talk about their opinion from a personal point of view. i havn't shut anyone down. You know perfectly well that only mods can do that.

[Marc]

Closing a thread doesn't mean you shut it down. There are other ways of doing it

I'm leaving this now

[Black Dagger]

Lostalex causing a scene again? Not like him.

Scott more than likely did attend his sisters funeral and now he's back in the house, his call whatever, people grieve differently.

[lostalex]

I don't want you to leave, i just wish you'd talk about the issue of the thread, i.e, scott's loss and the issue of people wanting to judge him based on going to a funeral or not, but instead you've used an entire page to chastize me over something that you yourself even admit isn;t even a rule break. You tried to make the thread about me but i was on topic the whole time.

you can understand why i feel targeted now then.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by muchadoaboutnothing

Sorry if this has been brought up already and passed through the pages of time. But i was wondering if Scott did go to his sisters (I think sisters) funeral as we appear to have seen him, at some stage, on every nights HLs shows?

A funeral only takes like an hour, maybe a few hours for the wake or whatever.

It would be very easy to slip away and the HL shows not say anything about it.

Scott wanted to keep it to himself (he said this when he was informed of the death, when he came back out of the DR) and I think his/his families privacy should be respected tbh

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

A funeral only takes like an hour, maybe a few hours for the wake or whatever.

It would be very easy to slip away and the HL shows not say anything about it.

Scott wanted to keep it to himself (he said this when he was informed of the death, when he came back out of the DR) and I think his/his families privacy should be respected tbh

Definately I agree with this.

Also Lostalex, I am really sad to learn of your loss and no,the fact you didn't want to be involved in the planning or whatever of your Mum's funeral etc, does not mean in any way you cared less for her.
Grief affects people in all different ways.
As Vicky said, even when Scott came back after leaving the house at the time of the death, he didn't want to discuss it when he came back, that is his full and total right.

When my Grandmother died, one of her Daughters,my Aunt, couldn't face anything as to it, the funeral or house full of people etc, she didn't attend the funeral even,went off on a trip until all was over, she had lived with My Grandmother all her life but grief has no norm as to thought, feeling or action.

Which is why Scott has every right not to discuss it at all and also to be solidly protected by BB from having to in the house too if he needs that.

Whether Scott attended the funeral or not,is for him to reveal and just because he is on BB,it is not also right for them to disclose if he did or not without his consent. That has nothing to do with wrong or right but is all about respect and decency for him, his late Sister and his family too..